Requesting relationship help?

MrCoffee · 03-20-2007, 04:53 PM

Hey guys,
I got a question. I've been dating a girl for about a month now, and shes ****ing amazing, plays video games, pretty, etc...anyway I find something I have trouble doing with her is talking, when we are hanging out one on one, lots of time we will be playing something like Soul Caliber 3 or SSB, or just sitting together, but when I try to initiate conversation she usually gives one word answers or very short that are impossible to go somewhere with. By nature shes a quiet person but that shouldn't exclude talking completely.

Any suggestions?

Professor S · 03-20-2007, 06:42 PM

I'll leave you with the advice that my older brother gave to me, and it did wonder for my love life...

When in doubt, whip it out.

DeathsHand · 03-20-2007, 07:25 PM

So she's amazing aside from the fact that you can't seem to initiate any sort of conversation and therefore connect with her on any level past noticing that she's pretty, likes to play video games, and etc.

*strokes chin*

I suppose The Professor's advice could work in the sense that it'd most likely force her to say something about the situation, but I've only seen that move used once, and Elaine didn't seem too happy about it...

I say ride that ship of video game campanionship until it's inevitable sinking.
Other than that I got nothin'...

Bond · 03-20-2007, 07:56 PM

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Originally Posted by MrCoffee

Hey guys,
I got a question. I've been dating a girl for about a month now, and shes ****ing amazing, plays video games, pretty, etc...anyway I find something I have trouble doing with her is talking, when we are hanging out one on one, lots of time we will be playing something like Soul Caliber 3 or SSB, or just sitting together, but when I try to initiate conversation she usually gives one word answers or very short that are impossible to go somewhere with. By nature shes a quiet person but that shouldn't exclude talking completely.

Any suggestions?

If you don't actually have any meaningful dialogue then I don't think you're really dating her. Perhaps suggest doing something that doesn't involve videogames. Might force her to actually talk to you.

Neo · 03-20-2007, 08:13 PM

Girls aren't for talking, they're for *******. They're also useful for ****** **** until you *** ****. You can also **** them **** backwards and **** their sweet ******** ****.

Actually what you should do is ask her open-ended questions, especially about things she likes. Everyone's favorite topic is themselves. Say "Tell me about..." or "How do you feel about....." If she gives a one word answer just stare at her with a "go on" look and she'll keep talking to break the awkward silence.

MrCoffee · 03-20-2007, 08:26 PM

okay so i left out a valid piece of information, she talks fine over chat, and text messages...I try not to whip it out, Im pretty sure Dylan set himself back aways with that.

Acebot44 · 03-20-2007, 08:46 PM

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Originally Posted by Neo

Actually what you should do is ask her open-ended questions, especially about things she likes. Everyone's favorite topic is themselves. Say "Tell me about..." or "How do you feel about....." If she gives a one word answer just stare at her with a "go on" look and she'll keep talking to break the awkward silence.

Just what I was going to say

KillerGremlin · 03-20-2007, 08:46 PM

the solution is simple, no yes or no questions

of course, in the most natural relationships that just comes naturally, conversation is usually not ever a problem

but sometimes you need to be sly, so make sure to ask questions that require 5 or more word responses

"where do you stand on global politics?"

Typhoid · 03-20-2007, 08:52 PM

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but when I try to initiate conversation she usually gives one word answers or very short that are impossible to go somewhere with.

This sounds more like friend material to me.
No matter how amazing you think she is, or how awesome she seems to be, there'll always be that distant level of awkwardness, unless you two can get over your hormonal rage and actually talk.

Right now, it seems (though I know nothing of you two) you could be masking the awkwardness of hanging out with playing games. You both dont have to talk, and you're both still together. So it's as if you're cheating your way along. Sure you're spending time with eachother, but you're not really getting to know eachother, or talking about...well...anything.

Happydude · 03-20-2007, 09:15 PM

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Originally Posted by Professor S

I'll leave you with the advice that my older brother gave to me, and it did wonder for my love life...

When in doubt, whip it out.

!!!

NICCCCCCE

Dyne · 03-20-2007, 10:21 PM

Out-silence her!

Silence is golden, etc.

To paraphrase Pulp Fiction, you know you've found someone when silence isn't awkward anymore.

Professor S · 03-20-2007, 10:52 PM

In all seriousness... bowling. Go bowling. I'm not kidding. I've never had a bad date when said date involved a night at the lanes. There is just so much to joke around about , including the fact that you're bowling. Besides, its impossible to take yourself seriously in bowling shoes, so people tend to let their hair down and be themselves.

bobcat · 03-20-2007, 11:29 PM

Keep copying EXACTLY what she says. It can be really annoying to her, and she is sure to start asking more questions after that. Then you can get married!!!

manasecret · 03-21-2007, 12:02 AM

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Originally Posted by Professor S

In all seriousness... bowling. Go bowling. I'm not kidding. I've never had a bad date when said date involved a night at the lanes. There is just so much to joke around about , including the fact that you're bowling. Besides, its impossible to take yourself seriously in bowling shoes, so people tend to let their hair down and be themselves.

I wonder if that's why Wii bowling is a such a universal hit.

Jonbo298 · 03-21-2007, 12:53 AM

Buy a Wii, it'll force her to talk or at least move more then the "zombie" pose when playing other console system games

I think she has a thing alot of teens/early adults are getting. Its much easier to talk alot online then in person. So they just start to adapt that way and you notice they talk up a storm online, but in person its like a totally different person.

Trust me...I'm becoming that way. I'm much easier ot talk to online then in person. I don't have to EXPRESS myself physically as much as online with an emoticon. But its just becuase I've grown so accustomed to talking online more readily (even though I work in a call center, work talking and outside of work talking are 2 totally different things) then talking in person.

Granted, I'm not just an outsider and don't talk to others >.> But in my opinion, as others have said, try getting to her to give more then "uh huh" type questions. Ask about her day, etc...take a break from games sometimes and go out somewhere if you can. It'll help more or at least talk ot her and let her know what your noticing and maybe she'll think about it and realize "Wow, I am not saying alot when playing games" and take notice.

Good luck!