Telling Your Friends "I Love You"

BreakABone · 03-28-2012, 11:44 PM

I don't know why this has been on my mind recently, but if you're friends with me on Facebook probably saw asked this question a few weeks ago as well.

But do you ever tell your friends, I love you? When?

IF you don't, why not?

Typhoid · 03-29-2012, 03:16 PM

I think for guys beyond the age of 23ish simply trying to keep in contact with your buddy is like a dude "I love you".

Bond · 03-29-2012, 03:50 PM

Clarification before answering: I'm assuming you mean in a serious and not joking / condescending manner?

BreakABone · 03-29-2012, 04:54 PM

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Originally Posted by Bond

Clarification before answering: I'm assuming you mean in a serious and not joking / condescending manner?

Yes in a serious way.

Angrist · 03-30-2012, 04:03 AM

Ehm I don't really say that... but when I mail my best friends, I usually start with "dear" and end with "love,".
And sometimes I give them a hug.

Combine 017 · 03-30-2012, 05:35 AM

YOU CANT MAIL A HUG!

I think I say it when im drunk, although im not really sure. I generally reserve the use of "love" for my girlfriend, my favorite games, delicious food and whiskey.

Angrist · 03-30-2012, 07:37 AM

The hug is irl.

BreakABone · 03-30-2012, 10:48 AM

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Originally Posted by Combine 017

YOU CANT MAIL A HUG!

I think I say it when im drunk, although im not really sure. I generally reserve the use of "love" for my girlfriend, my favorite games, delicious food and whiskey.

So you rather say I love a video game, food and booze.. before your friends?

Vampyr · 03-30-2012, 11:00 AM

Should I be telling them I love them? What's the point?

I'm not really an emotional person. I think most guys aren't.... and actions speak louder than words. If someone is your friend and you're their friend they know you care about them, not really a need to say it.

Back in high school when I had more friends who are girls we'd say 'i love you' to each other occasionally, but it was more flirty and not serious. In fact it was a mutual understanding that everything was completely platonic that made it okay to say it.

The only people I've ever said that to and meant it are my wife and my parents.

Combine 017 · 03-30-2012, 12:37 PM

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Originally Posted by BreakABone

So you rather say I love a video game, food and booze.. before your friends?

Ya, but its more so platonic with those things. I can be like "oh man, I love sushi." and other people will agree, but if I say "oh man, I love Earl." other people would be all "you mean the restaurant?" and it would just be awkward.

BreakABone · 03-30-2012, 12:39 PM

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Originally Posted by Vampyr

Should I be telling them I love them? What's the point?

I'm not really an emotional person. I think most guys aren't.... and actions speak louder than words. If someone is your friend and you're their friend they know you care about them, not really a need to say it.

Back in high school when I had more friends who are girls we'd say 'i love you' to each other occasionally, but it was more flirty and not serious. In fact it was a mutual understanding that everything was completely platonic that made it okay to say it.

The only people I've ever said that to and meant it are my wife and my parents.

There isn't a point to say it
There also isn't a point NOT to say it.

I am more curious than anything.

I mean sure you may understand the person knows you like em, but I don't see a problem with expressing that.

Vampyr · 03-30-2012, 01:23 PM

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Originally Posted by BreakABone

There isn't a point to say it
There also isn't a point NOT to say it.

I am more curious than anything.

I mean sure you may understand the person knows you like em, but I don't see a problem with expressing that.

Well, we're all thinking it so I'll go ahead and say it:

Most guys would find it really weird if you told them you love them.

Bond · 03-30-2012, 01:50 PM

I've only ever said "I love you" in a non-serious manner, and only ever observed it said in a non-serious manner between guys who are friends. At the other end of the spectrum, I routinely tell my close friends I hate them in a non-serious manner.

Now, at its core, it may indeed be serious (the "I love you," not "I hate you"), but it would be odd to outwardly express that as one does with a significant other.

Combine 017 · 03-30-2012, 05:43 PM

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Originally Posted by Bond

I've only ever said "I love you" in a non-serious manner, and only ever observed it said in a non-serious manner between guys who are friends. At the other end of the spectrum, I routinely tell my close friends I hate them in a non-serious manner.

Ya, you always say "omg Combine I hate you so much.", and I tend to reply with "awww, I love you too Bond.".

Dylflon · 04-07-2012, 04:33 AM

I don't always tell Sean I love him, but when I do, I call him Snookums.