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[Xantar]

The actual advice columnist's response was not to bring the subject up, try to treat the guy as his own person and seek therapy because there are clearly still remaining issues.

So let's see, what else can I use...ah, here's a good one.

Dear GameTavern,

So I hired a P.I., who posed as an erotic masseuse, on my partner. My partner played along over e-mail while never being explicit himself. They arranged to meet, and he showed up at the appointed time. When he returned to his apartment (after all, the masseuse was a ruse), he wrote her an e-mail repudiating some of her sexier suggestions. He is now upset at ME for “violating his trust,” even though he lied several times about his plans with her—and claims he ultimately made the right call. Any advice?

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