Requesting relationship help?

[Acebot44]

Originally Posted by Neo

Actually what you should do is ask her open-ended questions, especially about things she likes. Everyone's favorite topic is themselves. Say "Tell me about..." or "How do you feel about....." If she gives a one word answer just stare at her with a "go on" look and she'll keep talking to break the awkward silence.

Just what I was going to say

[Jonbo298]

Buy a Wii, it'll force her to talk or at least move more then the "zombie" pose when playing other console system games

I think she has a thing alot of teens/early adults are getting. Its much easier to talk alot online then in person. So they just start to adapt that way and you notice they talk up a storm online, but in person its like a totally different person.

Trust me...I'm becoming that way. I'm much easier ot talk to online then in person. I don't have to EXPRESS myself physically as much as online with an emoticon. But its just becuase I've grown so accustomed to talking online more readily (even though I work in a call center, work talking and outside of work talking are 2 totally different things) then talking in person.

Granted, I'm not just an outsider and don't talk to others >.> But in my opinion, as others have said, try getting to her to give more then "uh huh" type questions. Ask about her day, etc...take a break from games sometimes and go out somewhere if you can. It'll help more or at least talk ot her and let her know what your noticing and maybe she'll think about it and realize "Wow, I am not saying alot when playing games" and take notice.

Good luck!

[Perfect Stu]

the best way to get someone to talk is to ask them questions. once you get their opinion on something, ANYTHING, it's easy to make something out of it. you could make fun of it playfully, agree or disagree with it and explain why...basically spark some sort of conversation. if she never talks much (and some people never talk much) then you probably won't find a way to get her all chatty, just enjoy whatever it is she does or find a way out.

[KillerGremlin]

if all else fails, masturbate

[MrCoffee]

okay heres an update;
Today my buddy and his girl, and myself and Kaleigh, we played a round or two of soulcaliber, then i remarked on how I wanted some fresh air so we jumped in my buddies car and drove to a park and walked threw some trails, she was scared ****less because it was dark and there were coyotes howling, but i got her to talk about how scared she was and what could happen. I think i am getting closer. Bowling sounds like a great idea, I shall try that one too, im having trouble thinking about stuff to do for dates because movies are so anti-social...

i also notice that many of my friends have immense trouble showing emotion and being confident in person. I personally am totally fine because I tend to stay away from that kind of issue...

@dyne
yeah so uhh....silence is something that is not awkward anymore, because well uhh when were alone and in the mood, if i talk most likely to make a bad joke she hits me :P

okay guys im going to keep you updated on how its going i am a bit of a newb with relationships...:$

[Angrist]

If with "get in there" you mean sex, I beg to differ.

[Typhoid]

Originally Posted by Angrist

If with "get in there" you mean sex, I beg to differ.

He means plant the possibility of something more than just a friendship.
If you dont establish anything right off the bat, you'll be just friends, unless it's "special" or something.

[Angrist]

Ah, like in Friends season one where Ross is becoming friends with Rachel and Chandler says it's almost too late to start a relationship wit her? Comprendo.

Btw if anyone is interested, I got a new girlfriend. Which is a pretty big step after I thought I couldn't live without my ex.

[MrCoffee]

First of all I'm 16, almost 17, when you say getting in there, sex no but, I'm good pretty much everywhere else.

edit: i dno ive know her for along time, we were friends for almost a year, and then about two months ago we started flirting more and more and now were dating, but lately shes been really quiet, not as responsive.

It could be a better thing to just stay friends...maybe? I hope not.

[Perfect Stu]

Originally Posted by MrCoffee

It could be a better thing to just stay friends...maybe? I hope not.

talk to her about it, dude...none of us can really answer that question.

[MrCoffee]

Angrist, I dno you but Im interested. How did you get over your ex?

[Dylflon]

Originally Posted by MrCoffee

Angrist, I dno you but Im interested. How did you get over your ex?

Don't do that. You will type don't know like a decent human being. Or at least "dunno".


But dno? Come on, man.

[MrCoffee]

apparently you whipped it out, i was commenting on how that probably set you back aways.

[Dylflon]

Originally Posted by MrCoffee

apparently you whipped it out, i was commenting on how that probably set you back aways.

When did I whip it out? Where is this coming from?

[Typhoid]

Originally Posted by Dylflon

When did I whip it out? Where is this coming from?

It came from earlier in the thread when Strangie said something.