Why is it so hard...

TheSlyMoogle · 02-02-2005, 10:34 PM

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Originally Posted by jeepnut's slave

You know what else can be hard, is having someone say it to you and you don't want to say it back... but you know they expect you to. I've been there, and it was tough.

I've been there also, I know how it feels.

The Germanator · 02-03-2005, 12:53 AM

I can tell you why it's so hard for me. I'm insanely shy, especially when it comes to dealing with things like this with girls. There probably have been 4 or 5 times already in my life when I've definitely liked a girl but was too petrified to say anything about it. For me it's not just rejection, but it's embarassment. What if I thought that the girl liked me, was pretty confident, but then when I told her/asked her out, and then she reacts like I'm an idiot...For some reason, I always picture the worst case scenario in my mind before getting courage up to ask a girl out, and for that reason, I've never technically done it. I'm also scared about the aftermath of it all if she said no. I honestly don't think I could handle seeing that person on a daily/regular basis, her knowing that I still probably like her, but me knowing that I have no chance. None of this has ever happened to me because I haven't allowed it to happen, which leaves me a bit desperate at his point. Because if I don't allow myself to do it, then there will be a whole lot of lonely years ahead for me. So it goes.

Dyne · 02-04-2005, 03:56 PM

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Originally Posted by The Germanator

I can tell you why it's so hard for me. I'm insanely shy, especially when it comes to dealing with things like this with girls. There probably have been 4 or 5 times already in my life when I've definitely liked a girl but was too petrified to say anything about it. For me it's not just rejection, but it's embarassment. What if I thought that the girl liked me, was pretty confident, but then when I told her/asked her out, and then she reacts like I'm an idiot...For some reason, I always picture the worst case scenario in my mind before getting courage up to ask a girl out, and for that reason, I've never technically done it. I'm also scared about the aftermath of it all if she said no. I honestly don't think I could handle seeing that person on a daily/regular basis, her knowing that I still probably like her, but me knowing that I have no chance. None of this has ever happened to me because I haven't allowed it to happen, which leaves me a bit desperate at his point. Because if I don't allow myself to do it, then there will be a whole lot of lonely years ahead for me. So it goes.

That's exactly how I used to be.

You just have to remember the saying, "If you don't look for a relationship in a woman first, they'll look for one in you."

Also, if you look closely, there's hidden meaning in that quote. It says woman, not girl.

I will be damned if I'm ever caught saying if I like a girl or not through straight language.

ulala06 · 02-08-2005, 09:03 PM

hmmm... love is a word that's tossed around a lot nowadays.

i've grown up never saying it, even if you DID love someone. my family just isn't like that, so if i tell someone i love them, i usually really really REALLY mean it.

when people do nothing but tell each other how much they love each other, i think it cheapens it.

Stray_Bullet · 02-09-2005, 12:50 AM

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Originally Posted by Dyne

You just have to remember the saying, "If you don't look for a relationship in a woman first, they'll look for one in you."

Yes!

I hadn't heard that beforehand... but it's working out quite nicely.

Blackmane · 02-09-2005, 03:06 AM

I sometimes feel I throw out the words "I love you" too much without really thinking about whether I truly love the person or not. I am mainly speaking about my g/f, but it happens in general too. Most of the time when I say i love someone, I really just care about them a great deal.

Vampyr · 02-08-2005, 09:12 PM

It's like everything else in the world.

The more of it you have, the less the value.

DeathsHand · 02-09-2005, 04:53 AM

I hate saying "I love you" because I hate the phrase "I love you"... when it's coming from me at least, it sounds, feels, and looks (that's right, looks) awkward...

And because I'd be lying...

Seth · 02-09-2005, 05:13 AM

I'm just afraid of the commitment that's involved.

commitment is a scary thing when at the tender age of 19.

Canyarion · 02-04-2005, 02:46 AM

We're talking about saying it for the first time? Cause I really tell my girlfriend I love her almost every day!

But the first time.... it was hard.... You really love that person.... but when you say that, and she/he doesn't love you back, you could also ruin your friendship. So you try to find out what she thinks of you.

Ace195 · 02-04-2005, 03:26 AM

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Originally Posted by Canyarion

We're talking about saying it for the first time? Cause I really tell my girlfriend I love her almost every day!

But the first time.... it was hard.... You really love that person.... but when you say that, and she/he doesn't love you back, you could also ruin your friendship. So you try to find out what she thinks of you.

Yeah I tell my girlfriend I love her everyday, and I am IN love with her too and she is with me.