Marriage

[Yan]

One year may be enough to KNOW someone deeply. However, getting married is not as simple as understanding your partner. It is also about having mortgages, balancing career and a domestic life, having children (or not) and of course, the in-laws.

Hence, I would have to say that I will not marry (consider, yes) someone regardless of how much I am in love if I am not sure if I could work out all the matters I mentioned above especially if it is financial.

Yes, it is that superficial. Love doesn't pay the bills.

With regards to the parents, I am brought up in a society where going against the wishes of your parents is considered unfillial and basically, you go to hell (eyes are rolling, I know... ). I hope I'll never have to choose but if I have to... I'll choose family.

[Su-Yin]

Originally Posted by Yan

One year may be enough to KNOW someone deeply. However, getting married is not as simple as understanding your partner. It is also about having mortgages, balancing career and a domestic life, having children (or not) and of course, the in-laws.

Hence, I would have to say that I will not marry (consider, yes) someone regardless of how much I am in love if I am not sure if I could work out all the matters I mentioned above especially if it is financial.

Yes, it is that superficial. Love doesn't pay the bills.

With regards to the parents, I am brought up in a society where going against the wishes of your parents is considered unfillial and basically, you go to hell (eyes are rolling, I know... ). I hope I'll never have to choose but if I have to... I'll choose family.

...nice ly said yan......i dont think im materialistic or superficial at all and i dont think u are either......i can support myself...no worries there....its not all about the money...but its all about sharing responsibilites...i wouldnt marry a couch potato just cuase i love him

[The Germanator]

I've been a bit turned away from marriage because my parents and many of my friend's parents have been divorced (isn't up to 50/50 these days?), so I guess part of me doesn't see the point of it. If you love someone, that's fine. You can live in the same house and have kids with them for as long as you want, but why do you need this superficial ceremony? The only reason I see is the legal benefits of marriage, otherwise it seems silly to me. If things don't work out, it makes the whole process about 10 times worse than it needs to be.

[Dyne]

I'm definitely for marriage.

If there's one thing I'm insecure about, though, it's taxes and bills. I need a wife who can do math.

[DimHalo]

I tried to respond to this topic earlier but it kept erasing my post, so I'm trying again:


I love the idea of marriage. It is definately something I am looking forward to.

But I could not marry someone I had just known for a year. People change, a year is just not long enough to really get to know someone.

Marriage is a life-long commitment and is not something I want to take lightly.

[dropCGCF]

Originally Posted by jeepnut's slave

Marriage is a life-long commitment and is not something I want to take lightly.

A close friend of mine's girlfriend is discussing their "future". They've been together 5 months.

I've been with my woman for over a year and I still don't plan on anything yet. People need to take more time to decide if that person is really the one they want to marry. If you bitch about how your girlfriend treats you, you're obviously not ready to think about marriage.

And the Catholic Church's stance on it is unnacceptable. But that's just my opinion.

[Stray_Bullet]

Got maturity, dedication, and honesty? If so, then the couple's emotionally prepared.

I'd marry my gal (I fear not commitment!), but I don't even have a job anymore... and I've got a lot of stuff to pay for, so I'll wait until I do my college transfer (likely after two years of Community College). Though I'd like to before that :/

[Ginkasa]

Well, I personally think people shouldn't get married at least until they're past college (and other forms of schooling) and are at least 20.

While the entire ideal around marriage is to *cough* "eternally" be with the one you love, it has a lot of other stuff around it that has to be considered as well. It costs money for one, and I certainly don't think a lot of fresh high school grads or college students would be able to afford it.

I also think a couple should at least know each other for a couple of years before they ever consider marriage, much less actually dating. How oculd you possibly know if you want to spend the...err...rest of your life with someone if you haven't known them but for a few months?

And with at least being twenty... I just don't think a lot of people my age realize or are ready for it all. There are seniors who know that they're going to marry their boyfriend/girlfriend of two weeks, even though they broke up with a previous "fiance" only days before the new relationship. While that's hardly everybody, you still some stuff like that in a whole lot of high school relationships, and I hardly doubt anything changes soon after graduation.


*shrugs and walks away*

[DimHalo]

Originally Posted by dropCGCF

And the Catholic Church's stance on it is unnacceptable. But that's just my opinion.

Just curious, but was that a personal stab?

You quoted me, and I am Catholic...