Marriage

Happydude · 01-14-2005, 08:54 AM

i think the amount of time you know someone does matter becuase people change as the relationship goes on, your partner might start taking things more seriously and act differently later on than in the beginning when it's all just fun and games...i would say a year is long enough though.

age, to me doesn't matter though...if u love the person, it shouldn't matter how old they are...as long as they're old enough

and no, i wouldn't listen to my parents if they told me to marry or not to marry someone...i love who i love, not who they would like me to love.

Su-Yin · 01-14-2005, 11:41 AM

....i dont think ill b able to marry someone whos immature...i feel age matters....love doesnt matter the MOST in terms of marraige for me either....i guess it plays a big role in compatibility and being happy...but i dont think thats all there is to it.....*shrug*.....
i suppose waht my parents think does influence me saying i do or not....but at the end of the day i know if i convince them i know what im doing...and thats what i really want...they would let me be happy....*cross-fingers*....they just want the best for me...if they object...i bet they have a good reason to...if its ridiculous ill just get married whether they like it or not... getting married really is a bigger deal to me as compared to many....i am ready to make my choice and stick wiht it for the rest of my life....i wont ever get divorced....i dont believe in incomplete families...if i make a mistake at the beginning...ill just have to face the concequences after....divorce isnt even an option for me....

Yan · 01-14-2005, 11:50 AM

One year may be enough to KNOW someone deeply. However, getting married is not as simple as understanding your partner. It is also about having mortgages, balancing career and a domestic life, having children (or not) and of course, the in-laws.

Hence, I would have to say that I will not marry (consider, yes) someone regardless of how much I am in love if I am not sure if I could work out all the matters I mentioned above especially if it is financial.

Yes, it is that superficial. Love doesn't pay the bills.

With regards to the parents, I am brought up in a society where going against the wishes of your parents is considered unfillial and basically, you go to hell (eyes are rolling, I know...

). I hope I'll never have to choose but if I have to... I'll choose family.

Su-Yin · 01-14-2005, 12:05 PM

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Originally Posted by Yan

One year may be enough to KNOW someone deeply. However, getting married is not as simple as understanding your partner. It is also about having mortgages, balancing career and a domestic life, having children (or not) and of course, the in-laws.

Hence, I would have to say that I will not marry (consider, yes) someone regardless of how much I am in love if I am not sure if I could work out all the matters I mentioned above especially if it is financial.

Yes, it is that superficial. Love doesn't pay the bills.

With regards to the parents, I am brought up in a society where going against the wishes of your parents is considered unfillial and basically, you go to hell (eyes are rolling, I know...

). I hope I'll never have to choose but if I have to... I'll choose family.

...nice ly said yan......i dont think im materialistic or superficial at all and i dont think u are either......i can support myself...no worries there....its not all about the money...but its all about sharing responsibilites...i wouldnt marry a couch potato just cuase i love him

The Germanator · 01-14-2005, 05:14 PM

I've been a bit turned away from marriage because my parents and many of my friend's parents have been divorced (isn't up to 50/50 these days?), so I guess part of me doesn't see the point of it. If you love someone, that's fine. You can live in the same house and have kids with them for as long as you want, but why do you need this superficial ceremony? The only reason I see is the legal benefits of marriage, otherwise it seems silly to me. If things don't work out, it makes the whole process about 10 times worse than it needs to be.

Dyne · 01-14-2005, 05:26 PM

I'm definitely for marriage.

If there's one thing I'm insecure about, though, it's taxes and bills. I need a wife who can do math.

DimHalo · 01-14-2005, 05:47 PM

I tried to respond to this topic earlier but it kept erasing my post, so I'm trying again:

I love the idea of marriage. It is definately something I am looking forward to.

But I could not marry someone I had just known for a year. People change, a year is just not long enough to really get to know someone.

Marriage is a life-long commitment and is not something I want to take lightly.

dropCGCF · 01-14-2005, 05:54 PM

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Originally Posted by jeepnut's slave

Marriage is a life-long commitment and is not something I want to take lightly.

A close friend of mine's girlfriend is discussing their "future". They've been together 5 months.

I've been with my woman for over a year and I still don't plan on anything yet. People need to take more time to decide if that person is really the one they want to marry. If you bitch about how your girlfriend treats you, you're obviously not ready to think about marriage.

And the Catholic Church's stance on it is unnacceptable. But that's just my opinion.