Awesome Week - Day 4 Summary

[Vampyr]

Originally Posted by Dylflon

I really don't think she'll read too much into it.

...she makes more money than me anyways.


Besides, we had a good time. If she had fun, I don't think I really blew my first impression.

I dont think you blew it either. From what I read, you handled it very well. You did have a chance to buy her drink, but you didnt know what she wanted. What if you had bought her something terrible? Not only would your first impression have been ruined, but everytime she thought of you she would be riminded of that unpleasent coffee taste in her mouth. There are some girls who like for the guy to take control and order their stuff for them, but most of the ones I know like to get what they want. So I think you did the right thing. And, if you had stopped her halfway up there to ask if you could buy it, it would be way to obvious that you were trying to impress her or make it a un-casual date.

However, had you both been at the register at the same time, things would probably have been different. In such a situation, you could have been like "What do you want?"

You described yourself as having this whole "charming" thing going on...and from my experiances, that's the best thing you can have. Because they will be attracted to you and there will be something about you that they like that they just cant put their finger on...

Anyway, good job.

[Typhoid]

There is one way to find out what she wanted, and apparently neither of you have bought anything for a girl before.

Before you walk up to but your thing, you could casually ask her " Do you want anything?"

Thus, she tells you what she wants, and then you do have the knowledge of what she wants.

[Dyne]

Well done; you took my advice and applied it knowingly to the context.

There's a bunch of other rules for attraction, but you've definitely nailed one: Confidence. By showing that you don't need to seek her acceptance and kiss up to her buying her a drink (which is not considered chivalry in most parts) you've triggered attraction. The drink is NOTHING. She's there to see you, not to be bought a drink. Some people don't realize.. women get bought drinks all the time. Some even despise it. And I can tell you, at the end of the night, they won't think that you're a jerk for not buying a drink, guaranteed. You want to be slotted into the LOVER category by being interesting, instead of the PROVIDER category, which buys the woman things she wants. Unfortunately, once you're slotted, it's very, very hard to move into the category, if not impossible. By nailing the formal "first impression" you've secured your category slot.

[Dylflon]

Originally Posted by Dyne

Some people don't realize...

Some people...like TYPHOID!