Towards a career? or backstabbed?

Dark Samurai · 04-15-2004, 08:07 AM

I've had this situation before, (except I was the one that got the new job). It was at a BestBuy, my ex was cashier there for a year, when she told me that there was openings, I went for it. I got the job, and astonishingly I had the better paycheck, the was thoroughly(sp?) pissed off. We broke up because of this big arguement that men get the better paycheck, and stuff like that. Oh, and I was cashier too.

So I say that you should just move on, its better that you have a good career, than a bastard-ass boyfriend.

DimHalo · 04-15-2004, 09:38 AM

i would say that you should move on. you did fine trying to get a new job, it was not your fault he was fired. and if he really cared about you he would be happy for you, so since he doesn't then he's not worth being with

Jewels · 04-15-2004, 10:19 AM

thanx guys, he supposed to talk to me sometime todaY but i dont think im gonna talk with him, he should be ****ing happy that i finally got a job that deals with my career, that and i work at sams club, and in the front end, the only thing a cashier does is get to stand around all day checking therefore it sucked for me, and he was in the same position, so he got out into the electronics ****ed his job up and they fired him, now i applied for it, APPLIED! that doesnt neccessarily mean that ill get it! and he cant see that, love this kid i do but its bull**** to play war on the behalf that i did nothing wrong, he told his mom that he was LAYED OFF... layed off!!! now shes mad at me that i moved in on his position, she doesnt even know the whole half of the story!!!!! aaaaaaaahhhhhhhh ill let yall know what happends today. but a high ass chance i wont go back, i dont need to take this crap, especially when im getting out of this town in the fall to attend U.S.D. for computer science, yes i am excited, i was accepted to the University Of South Dakota..... and how do you think he took that.... little pissed and sad... I JUST CANT WIN!!! but this argument i will!

Jonbo298 · 04-15-2004, 10:38 AM

Keep acting tough to his mom until she listens to you. I'd keep repeating "LISTEN TO MY SIDE OF THE STORY" until she complied.

Worst comes to worst, just leave her house and never worry about her again.

Jason1 · 04-15-2004, 11:49 AM

This guy sounds like an Idiot.

Dylflon · 04-15-2004, 12:28 PM

He's acting irrationaly because he feels that he's a failure. I have seen this several times before. Now, instinctively men feel they have to be the provider. We can't help that. That's just the way we are. If he loses his job and you take his position that probably makes him feel like less of a man so to speak. He's most likely feeling crummy that he lost his job and it hurts him to see you come in and take his job. It's a big blow to his pride.
I think that may be tricky for any of us to deal with. (Someone we cared about taking our job. Think about it.)

Now, I'm not saying he wasn't acting irrationally. In fact, he was being kind of a jerk. But I also feel that he can't help the way he's feeling. So, if you care about him and he'll be enough of a man to talk it through with you and accept that you may get his job, then give him another shot.

DimHalo · 04-15-2004, 01:07 PM

not talking to him would make him think you don't care about him. if he wants to talk about it rationally then you should give him that chance. otherwise you'll just be showing him the same respect he showed you, be the bigger person