Really scared, what should I do?

[TheGrimReaper]

Oh man I was just scared out of my wits. I was walkin out of my school, and this guy that I used to know was there with some other guy, so Im just like "k whatever" and walk off. About 5 steps later, the guy I dont know says "Hey thats him" so i'm like what? And I turn around. The guy I dont know says to me "Have you been giving crap to my freind?". I was tempted to say "Yes, a nice big one that I found this morning, but I know by crap, he meant anooying him, plus I didnt know who he was talking about, so I said "No, who is your freind?" and he said "It doesnt matter" So I said, k then and walked off. then he pushed me and said, what bus do you catch, and I said I dont catch the bus. He said "I'll get you soon enough".

Please help me guys, I dont know what to do.

[nWoCHRISnWo]

Well you could start by not letting people walk all over you.

[TheGrimReaper]

Well I was at school, in school uniform, so if I did anything I would have got in serious trouble.

But I think he might come back

:(

[fingersman]

i thought you were grimreaper...master if death??;)

Ok all jokes aside...Just tell him you don't know what he's talking about....and tell him you wanna know what the deal is. Now don't be like agressive and stuff...that might get your ass beat in and don't show that your afraid as sh!t either ( although you probadly are) ANd while talking to him look at him at face level. Whatever you do don't act like a wimp. :D But don't act like you'll beat the guy's ass in either.

BTW have you been giving crap to anyone???


Oh yeah and when worst comes to worst .....take a piece of
4 X 4 and wet him. :D j/k

I don't know how my advice sounds....:unsure:.....Xantar is usually better at this sort of thing. But if you feel uneasy about my advice don't follow it.

[Xantar]

I don't know how the Australian school system is, so I can't really give you detailed advice. I know that American public schools don't deal with bullies very well (thus I learned martial arts). But maybe Australian school authorities will actually do something if somebody beats you up. I don't know.

I can't remember whether you said that you know any martial arts, but I don't think you do. A shame, really, but you can't fix that now. The methodology of dealing with these people is all in the attitude. That's what martial arts gives you more than anything else. People who have studied martial arts for a long time have this supremely confident and unafraid look about them. They are not cocky and arrogant. That's a different thing. What they do, however, is look people right in the eye and don't retreat when advanced on. They give no sign, in other words, that they are afraid of the other personÑusually because they genuinely aren't. And when they speak, it's always in a level voice. No anger, no hurt, no fear.

You could try pretending that you actually know him really well. That way you can treat him the same way you treat little siblings. Because the truth is you really are superior.

If worse comes to worst (and I'm not convinced that it will), do not throw the first punch. Don't throw the second or third one either. This is very hard to do, but you have to make it absolutely clear who the victim is. At the worst, if you get injured in any way, authorities will believe you when you say that you were hazed.

And if at all possible, avoid confrontation. Walk away if you think a fight is coming. He may tackle you from behind, but if he tackles you from the front, your chances of beating him up are more or less the same anyway.

My best guess, based on limited information, is that he's screwing around with you. For that, he deserves your contempt, not your fear. This is the attitude I would approach the situation with, but it's very hard to strike the balance between being superior and being confrontational.

And remember, the authorities are there to help you if and when some kind of confrontation occurs. Who cares if it makes you look like a weenie? You shouldn't worry what other people think about you anyway.

P.S. Why so scared out of your wits? He's not likely to kill you or even permanently damage you. Pain is something you will learn to deal with as you grow up.

[Ravishing Rick Rude]

He pushed you from behind?

You owe him one then, next time he talks to you and then turns him back..... Sucker punch him in the back of the head, and when he turns around, just start throwing Jackhammer punches, he will learn not to mess with you anymore

[Joeiss]

I say give him a swift kick in the sack. Hey, why not? If you think this guy can beat you up, why not get a cheap shot in that could save you from damage?

Or... You can just talk to that guy that you used to know (who was with the guy that was harrasing you). Then you could find out why the hell this whole incident happened. Unless you were giving crap to that guy you used to know, and then he got his friend to take you out...

[Gamer]

Hmm, If there is someone who is pissing you off, or scaring you...welll you could carry a weapon, thats what i did in a situation almost the same, but if you dont own a knife or something, make sure you have some streghnth man, like if you can fist fight, thats the best of pretection. Although if you are in serious trouble you could take the walk of "shame" andrun like hell! I could give you the recipe for a little thing that could blow the **** out of his car and no one would know who did it!

I dont know exactly what to do, but dont want ya to get the beats, i know some guys who got the beats, one had plastic surgery(on his face) and the other i havent seen since. But i think the best thing to do would be to try to avoid him, if you see him well just keep walking. You could always talk to someone about it too, like maybe to a teacher or something, he cant get you if you are in the school. :rolleyes: Well i hope this helps! Anyways, hope for the best. Go get em!:killpika: :rambo:

[DeathsHand]

Beat the guy to death with a bat... you'll be doing him a favor by putting the thick headed azzhole out of his misery...

People who fight in school'n'such and threaten people like that, IMO, are just morons who don't know any other way to deal with things...

:sneaky:

"I weel pounj00 into ze grownd becuz eye am beeg an toof! Graaarrr! Fear mee!"

But... that's just me.... *runs away*

[Perfect Stu]

Damn I wish I was you...

Perfect opportunity to give people a beating, and you might not even get in trouble for it (if you're sneaky :sneaky: )

If the guy "bothers" you again, tell him to f*ck off...if he doesn't, kick his ass...and if he's bigger or tougher than you, kick him in the crotch, it always works...

Good luck

[Shadow_Link]

You have any big friends or older brothers?

Okay, just incase you don't. Firstly, try find an alternate route to your home, a way in which he won't be able to find you, etc... Walk home with some mates?
If you can't do the above, then try out Xantar's way first, and if worst comes to worst, you may just have to consider D_Beckham7's option... If you do decide to carry a form of protection, try pepper spray (CS spray), hehe...

I would try and avoid fighting this person. If you're lucky, this might be one dumb joke...

[gekko]

Bust out your glock and show the bastard who's boss!

[TheGrimReaper]

Thanks for the advice guys.

And no, I havent been messin with anybody. Hopefully by today he would have gone away, see I told one of his freinds in my class to tell him to leave me alone (He's gonna listen to his freind more than me right?) and the guy in my class said Yeah ill stop it.

But if it happens again, and he uses violence, I am going to defend myself.

But anywayz, thanks for the advice guys, its reassured me a lot.

Espicially Xantar, thanks man.

I'll tell you guys how it goes.

[Yugi Starwind]

good luck,man. Don't let him get to ya.

[GameMaster]

Rely on man's natural instincts buried deep down underneath mannerism and other social etiquete that you and all the rest of us have been drowned in. Connect with your "animal" side if necessary.

[GameKinG]

Well, you throw mud in his eyes, and kick him in the family jewels.

Thats the real mans way out.

[DeathsHand]

Fill a water gun up with vinegar or shampoo water or something and shoot it at his eyes... :sneaky:

[Bond]

Buy a gun or go into the witness protection program. That's the best advice you'll ever hear.

[LoudHowardZERO]

Pepper Spray ;)

[gekko]

No, cause guns can only be used to scare people. See, people carry guns for protection. Why? I have no clue. Shoot it, and you're charged with a crime. Don't shoot it, and it becomes a wasted purchase.

Let's look at it this way, someone tries to rob you, you bust a cap in his ass. Now it's your word vs. a dead guys. Fact is you murdered him. Can you justify it?

I mean, think back to the quote "An eye for an eye." Although 99% of the world doesn't get what it means, it means if i steel $1 dollar from you, you can't kill me. You can only punish me with an equal punishment. Get it? An eye for an eye, if i take your eye, you can only take my eye. You can't take both eyes, or kill me. So if he's only robbing you, are you really justified in killing him?

Pepper spray works wonders though. :D

But really, chances are the guys are just ***s who ran out of viagra and are on "break." Most kids won't do anything but talk. Don't bother running, don't bother getting pissed. Just ignore them. They will look for your weaknesses, and if your weakness if fear, they will keep picking on you. If you aren't scared on them, they will stop.

[Ridley]

Well for one thing, you could let him kick your ass. Then you could write a song about it, learn how to rap and soon you'll become a rich piece of trash like Eminem :D. Ok so maybe that isn't the way to go :p.

Anyone who said carry a knife or gun should be ashamed. Guns and knives (except for war situations because they're kind of a necessity there) are for cowards and/or people with weak minds. They don't solve the situation, they just start a vicious cycle. People see you with a gun they think "Oh ****, he's got a gun. So if I want to make sure I'm safe, I better buy one too." and you can take it from there what happens again and again.

Xantar's and gekko's suggestions are the best I've heard in this whole topic. But hey some of the others will work too. Here's one that works, act like one crazy son of a b**ch and say things (scream while you're doing it because you have to startle them) that don't make sense like "insert name here your mother said hello. Run down the street. Billy go get some oranges for what the hell is wrong with you?" See that made absolutely no sense, which should confuse the guy and while he's confused you give him a couple of good shots (not the gun kind :rolleyes: ) or run like hell ;). Ok so maybe that isn't too good of an idea after all :D.

[marionette]

well like some people said, whatever you do, don't show any fear, or he'll take advantage of it...and look him in the eye when you talk..

[GameMaster]

Originally posted by DeathsHand
Fill a water gun up with vinegar or shampoo water or something and shoot it at his eyes... :sneaky:

:lol: :D

[TheGrimReaper]

Yeah thanks for all the advice guys.

Luckily I didnt need it cause he didnt show up today, so im thinking its all over.

Thanks guys, I was really scared I was gonna get bashed.

[Fez]

There's **** all you can do sir.

I haven't exactly been in that situation, but I have had similiar experiences, and seen other people suffer them. There is nothing you can really do.

*Fight em, either lose or get suspended. Not worth it, and they'll definetly get you back if they have any balls. Unless you're a uber l33t taekwondo man like myself.

*Do nothing. It's *****, but you'll either get off ok, or they'll still try and hurt you. I suppose it;s the best option.

*Tell an authority. HAHA, GOOD ONE!

*Burn his house down and hang him by the kidneys. :D

Well dude, I suggest do nothing, keep your cool but don't act tough. You should survive. I myself ended up becoming cooler and more witty, thus increasing my popularity and decreasing my enemys. You should try it.

[Angrist]

By the way, don't look for him, just to see if he's around. It will make you look afraid. If he's there, you'll see him. You don't have to look if he's around.

[fingersman]

Wow....if he took anyone else's advice except mines....physco or Xantar, he might have got his a$$ beat in. LOL :D
Geeezzz Grim with friends like you he doesn't need enemies. ;) j/k

Neways you don't seem like the fighting type, so I'm glad everything is working out for you....and next time give more detail on the guy and your surroundings. As you can see I'm not to good at giving advice over the internet or in person.....I used to be...but then I stopped.*sigh* I think I should start back...cause it really feels good when you helped someone out with your advice. Oh and if that guy is still around call big bad Xantar for him. ;)

[Shadow Fox]

I'll give you two major bits of advice to help in case you havent' solved this already:

1). If he walks up on you again, the moment he's close enough, take the heel of your palm (the meaty portion close to your wrist), and shove it in his adam's apple as hard as you can. He's guaranteed to drop to the floor, and it won't kill him. Plus, you won't get in trouble because he's threatened you before, and you had reason to fear for your own safety (God I love that excuse)...:D

2). Just give me the addy to your school and the name of the bloody bastard. I won't touch him, (since he's probably alot younger than me), but he will not bother you after I have a chat w/ him- guaranteed.;)

*slips Reaper a katana*

*walks off whistling*

[gekko]

Originally posted by Ridley
Anyone who said carry a knife or gun should be ashamed. Guns and knives (except for war situations because they're kind of a necessity there) are for cowards and/or people with weak minds. They don't solve the situation, they just start a vicious cycle. People see you with a gun they think "Oh ****, he's got a gun. So if I want to make sure I'm safe, I better buy one too." and you can take it from there what happens again and again.

I disagree. It all depends who has the gun. I know cops who carry concealed weapons. More or less, for personal safety. They arrest someone, and then they're spotted in the street, they become a target. Sure, gangsters carry guns. But in reality, those guys are the stupidest bunch of kids I've ever seen. I don't mind if these gangsters shoot each other, one less stupid person in the world. The problem is they can't hit ****. They don't know how to carry a gun, or shoot one. They end up hitting more people down the street, and they rarely hit their target within the first 50 shots.

I don't mind people carrying guns for their own personal safety. The problem is certain people having those guns, and more importantly, the laws. If i was in a bank, and it was taken hostage. I could shoot the guy, get everyone out safely, be thanked by the cops, and then still get put in jail. It's a lose-lose situation with guns.

[BigJustinW]

Originally posted by gekko


Sure, gangsters carry guns. But in reality, those guys are the stupidest bunch of kids I've ever seen. I don't mind if these gangsters shoot each other, one less stupid person in the world. The problem is they can't hit ****. They don't know how to carry a gun, or shoot one. They end up hitting more people down the street, and they rarely hit their target within the first 50 shots.


Have you ever been shot at by one of them?

If not, how the hell do you know?

[TheGrimReaper]

Yeah well anyway. I sorta made myself out to be a weakling. I'm really not, but I only fight in self defense. The reason I came here, was that he was gonna get 5 of his mates, and really, one guy on five isnt very good odds.

[gekko]

Ever hear of the police? Their job is to make the place safe. Stop crime, and prevent crime. If you think something will happen, alert the police. Have a cop swing around there about the time you get home from school and get after the kids.

[Drunk Hobbit]

No security guards at school? Easier to get than police.


Oh, and I bet everyone telling you to fight him and "kick him in the family jewels" wouldn't do it themselves.

[gekko]

No, I would talk home with a shotgun and a shovel :D

[Joeiss]

Originally posted by Danchastu
No security guards at school? Easier to get than police.


Hahaha... Maybe at your school. But at my school, the security guards do jack $hit. They actually watch the fights, and then break it up after one guy wins. It is quite sad because they get paid for school safety, even though they don't do squat.

[Drunk Hobbit]

Yeah, you know how those Canadian security guards are...

[gekko]

Originally posted by Joeiss


Hahaha... Maybe at your school. But at my school, the security guards do jack $hit. They actually watch the fights, and then break it up after one guy wins. It is quite sad because they get paid for school safety, even though they don't do squat.

That's how a lot of them ae trained. I can see why though, if the fight isn't over, they're more likely to keep going and someone will get hurt.

At my school, the biggest guy there was put in a neck brace after breaking up a fight. And one of the female teachers had gotten elbowed in the chest, and got a broken rip which went back and punctured her lung.

[Ric]

Beat the crap out of him, I'd have done it there and then (and said I was acting in self defence). If you dont like that idea, kick him in the nuts and run like the wind.

[Drunk Hobbit]

And what is he suppose to do the next day? Just keep kicking him in the nuts?

[Angrist]

No use fighting him if he's going to get his friends.

[Ric]

Have you got a big brother. (Or violent big sister) or a tough cousin or something.

Ok the best thing to do is ask the guy what the problem is, if he starts acting violently go tell a teacher (member of the Faculty as you call them) who you know/like and will do something about it. If you are really that worried tell your parents aswell.

[Yugi Starwind]

Well,If you have a few friends that can hurt someone,or friends that look tough,have them stay near you. Just so that you have some protection,or company on our walk home so they wont jump you. good luck........

[Angrist]

I have 2 karatekas as friends :D But like Xantar said, they don't like to fight on the street.

[Wilson]

Originally posted by TheGrimReaper
Yeah well anyway. I sorta made myself out to be a weakling. I'm really not, but I only fight in self defense. The reason I came here, was that he was gonna get 5 of his mates, and really, one guy on five isnt very good odds.

Listen Grim, you did anything but make yourself out to be a weakling. You were in a tight situation and you didn't know what to do and you came here looking for an opinion. I'll tell you what I tell my students about bullies because I've had alot of experience with them (The whole Rugby, Hocky, and Soccer team was after me after they found out I was a black belt in grade 9. Oh, and a very large group of Italians ;) ).

Well anyhow, Xantar couldn't be more right. It's all percieved in how calm you are... it's not really something you can fake though as your emotion does shine through your eyes. As he's talking to you, look at his eyes... don't stare hime down, don't try to look tough, just respect what he's saying. While doing this, try to take note of his stance, where are his legs, his hands, is his head lowered ( headbutts anyone? ), look for bulges in his pockets. Most importantly, try to talk your way out first, fight your way out last.

Don't speak to him as if you are a robot (monotone), just speak as you would to a family member. Ask what the cause of the problem is. If he's unwilling to tell you, and he starts trash talking... keep one foot behind you and slowly turn your body to the side to make yourself less of a target. Just be ready to move out of the way. My advice is to never actually hit him as that would leave bruises and such, leaving you prone to assault charges. Shadow Fox's recommendation of the palm-heel strike to the throat is beautiful as it's rare that will leave a mark.

If he threatens to bring friends, you have to make him regret saying that. If you don't get the chance to and you find yourself in one of these five on one situations, and you know there's no way out think of this. You are probably going down, take out the guy who started it all, and the others will more than likely back off. Show them that even in such low odds, you don't give a ****. You'll earn some of their respect, and thats all you need. If one guy turns to your side, he'll stop the others, trust me. Just take out the original weed.

My incident with the Italians was a follows. This young fellow named Corrado wanted to test me (now I don't know what was going through his mind as I had just finished taking down a 6'7" Rugby player, who by the way ended up being a very close friend of mine after the incident), and as I was walking to one of my classes one day, I felt someone push me. I turned and saw him. I asked what he did that for? He said because he felt like it, and I said At least have the decency to let me face you first. He just looked at me with this puzzeled look as if he didn't understand why I wasn't scared or something. He came to push me again and I let his hands touch my chest, barred his hands to me with my forearm, and turned. I threw him smack dab into the lockers, and I saw he was winded. I heard my friend say "Oh ****". I dropped my bag, and wrapped my thumb and index finder around his laranx, and squeezed. I looked to the side and saw all of his friends looking at me. All of them. I stared into his eyes with a really cold look and asked if it was over... and he noded. I let go, grabbed my bag and walked away. I heard him scream that I better watch my back... I didn't answer back, I knew I didn't have to.

From then on, neither him nor his friends ever bothered me again. Well enough about me. ;)

[BreakABone]

Yadda..Yadda..Yadda....


Interesting thread to say the less..Can't say I agree with many people here..Well my views are...

Weapons are a very dumb move...I don't know if your school is like mines but you can get ccaught before you use the weapon.. which automatically is a crime and you would be arrested...I seen some kid get arrested for having a butter knife on him....

So even if you thought about it..You would most likely get caught before.. and if not and you use it...Your @$$ would be in big trouble..

Kicking in the groin..Well painful will only anger him more and the fact is it won't stop him from bothering you and he should know how to block it next time him meets up with you.....

With a kid like that it doesn't sound like fighting will help you much either.. I mean you...
a)Fight and win..He will find a way to get revenge
b)You fight and lose... He will continue to pick on you because he is stronger

I personally can't offer you the bext advice here...I don't think you have my same situation.. Sometimes being black and tall has it's perks:D

So um well try to avoid him and see if you can get your friend to talk to him