Let's talk about girls! - Page 4

magus113 · 08-07-2008, 06:43 PM

The negative side of me feels kind of mixed about how it's going, but I don't listen to it.

You're right on those points that you mentioned earlier. Things could essentially go somewhere when you have this group thing, but you also have to remember that you can't bring yourself towards her when you're with the group. Give her space, and take the time to meet new people, etc.

Bond · 08-07-2008, 11:34 PM

I think she's too nice to tell you she doesn't want to ever date you. I've seen this scenario before.

Yoda9864 · 08-08-2008, 01:26 AM

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I think she's too nice to tell you she doesn't want to ever date you. I've seen this scenario before.

So pessimistic!

...but it's probably true. :/

Angrist · 08-08-2008, 04:59 AM

We'll see. Most people I spoke irl have a positive feeling. Even 1 friend who isn't a Jehovah's Witness.

The way I see it: I don't think she ever let a man get close in the last years. She didn't notice that I liked her, she had to think about it. She isn't suddenly totally in love with me. But since we had such nice times, she's giving me a chance. That's what it is, a chance, so she didn't want to date right away, afraid that things might go too fast.

At least she now knows I like her. We'll keep contact, we'll see eachother again.

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Things could essentially go somewhere when you have this group thing, but you also have to remember that you can't bring yourself towards her when you're with the group. Give her space, and take the time to meet new people, etc.

Yeah, I realize that. I won't be all over her. Thanks.

Edit: I thought about asking her in an e-mail: Hey, just wondering, is this a nice way of saying "Sorry, but no chance", or did you mean what you said?
But I don't like putting it out there in the open. I just want to see her again and I'll be able to tell by her eyes.

KillerGremlin · 08-08-2008, 02:05 PM

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Edit: I thought about asking her in an e-mail: Hey, just wondering, is this a nice way of saying "Sorry, but no chance", or did you mean what you said?
But I don't like putting it out there in the open. I just want to see her again and I'll be able to tell by her eyes.

Don't send the email, it would be a little to e-creepy.

I'm with Dylflon...I'd say she sounds more interested in being friends than a relationship, but I dunno how this whole religion thing comes into play.

You need to continue with the drama, this is like GT Reality TV, it's good stuff.

Angrist · 08-08-2008, 03:54 PM

Haha, I think I'm pissing off most people here with my whiny posts.

But I'll keep you updated.

I went for a cycle this evening and I thought about it. I really just don't know. I think she would be nice/sensible enough to tell me when I didn't have a chance. Then again, I was wondering what I would say if a girl would have asked me out... I'd probably give her a chance.

You have to remember here that we had a lot of fun together. She touched me, laughed at my jokes, had a lot of eye contact... talked about many things. If I were her, I'd give me a fair chance.

Now I just have to wait for an opportunity to see her again.

Swan · 08-08-2008, 04:51 PM

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Originally Posted by Angrist

Haha, I think I'm pissing off most people here with my whiny posts.

But I'll keep you updated.

I went for a cycle this evening and I thought about it. I really just don't know. I think she would be nice/sensible enough to tell me when I didn't have a chance. Then again, I was wondering what I would say if a girl would have asked me out... I'd probably give her a chance.

You have to remember here that we had a lot of fun together. She touched me, laughed at my jokes, had a lot of eye contact... talked about many things. If I were her, I'd give me a fair chance.

Now I just have to wait for an opportunity to see her again.

Sounds hot

Bond · 08-08-2008, 04:18 PM

You're over analyzing, which will be your downfall. Go big or go home. Make your own luck.

GameMaster · 08-10-2008, 08:39 PM

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Make your own luck.

Is this the part where we send Angrist a double-sided 'head' coin?

Or should we wait for half his face to be severely burned in a terrible accident?

Angrist · 08-08-2008, 04:27 PM

What do you mean with that?

DeathsHand · 08-08-2008, 05:27 PM

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What do you mean with that?

He means that, here in America, we just whip it out and wait for someone to pounce.

Swan · 08-08-2008, 05:37 PM

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He means that, here in America, we just whip it out and wait for someone to pounce.

Which can be surprisingly fast in some places

Bond · 08-08-2008, 05:39 PM

That's not exactly what I meant. I simply mean that over anaylzing this kind of situation is going to get you no where fast. You have two options: do something or do nothing at all. Stop talking about it to other people and yourself. Be a man and talk to her.

Dyne · 08-08-2008, 06:35 PM

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That's not exactly what I meant. I simply mean that over anaylzing this kind of situation is going to get you no where fast. You have two options: do something or do nothing at all. Stop talking about it to other people and yourself. Be a man and talk to her.

I've avoided this thread thusfar but Bond's almost got it.

Stop looking for a relationship and just start looking for a friend. If it doesn't work out, who cares. Don't ever lay your heart on the line like you're planning to do because you'll never win. Women will immediately lose their attraction to you if you act like that. Just hang out with her more and more - eventually she'll get the message that you like her. Everybody who's ever said "be yourself" has got it exactly right. Be yourself. Don't be a guy who's looking for a relationship. You wouldn't act that way with your best friend, would you? That would just be weird, right? Exactly.

Be yourself. Man up. Start talking to her like the friend she IS and not a potential soul mate.

KillerGremlin · 08-08-2008, 07:11 PM

You should try to get her alone on a dinner date or a movie or something and just go in for a kiss...otherwise, you risk being in the friend position forever. I'm not sure if you have made it clear to her that you are interested in her more than as just a friend. Some women are stupid, some women choice to ignore the "obvious" signs, so it is your job to take a firm stand and do something dramatic.

Otherwise, I kind of have to agree with Bond and Dyne here.