Let's talk about girls! - Page 5

Angrist · 08-08-2008, 06:09 PM

I sometimes feel like the girl in this clip:

Luckily I don't ever show how big my heart is.

Bond, I'd talk to her if I could meet her in a pub or something. But right now there's just no spontaneous way of meeting her yet. And I don't want to scare her, especially after her reaction.

Angrist · 08-09-2008, 07:08 AM

I'm sure I'll be fine. As I said, I was going to put this thread to rest. But somebody asked, so I did another analysis.

Thanks for all the advice and I'll update when there's news in the following weeks.

Typhoid · 08-09-2008, 12:56 PM

That "friends for life" thing is total bullshit, to let you all know.
When a girl says "I like you, but we're too good of friends now to ruin that" is a blanket fallback of "I don't like you". They're your friend, so they don't want to hurt you - obviously.

Timing, realistically - means nothing. Especially of a kiss with a girl friend. If there's attraction, timing is null and void. If there's no attraction, you'll get the "we're too good of friends" speech.

I agree with the whole "Dont try for a girlfriend" thing. Don't. Pointless. Try for a friend. If it turns to something more, awesome. If not - then at least you have a friend.

Bube · 08-10-2008, 11:16 AM

There comes a time in your life when for some reason, you don't want to look for friends, but a relationship. These are desperate times. And you need a relationship in these times, making it even more desperate.

KillerGremlin · 08-11-2008, 02:53 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Typhoid

That "friends for life" thing is total bullshit, to let you all know.
When a girl says "I like you, but we're too good of friends now to ruin that" is a blanket fallback of "I don't like you". They're your friend, so they don't want to hurt you - obviously.

Timing, realistically - means nothing. Especially of a kiss with a girl friend. If there's attraction, timing is null and void. If there's no attraction, you'll get the "we're too good of friends" speech.

I agree with the whole "Dont try for a girlfriend" thing. Don't. Pointless. Try for a friend. If it turns to something more, awesome. If not - then at least you have a friend.

Should we analyze the social aspects of guys having female friends?
It would make for entertaining discussion.

Angrist · 09-30-2008, 04:19 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Angrist

I'll update when there's news in the following weeks.

That's the problem. There hasn't been any news.

Hm, not really true. We ended up mailing (joking really) about kids, and she didn't reply for weeks. So I figured I had scared her, which is probably partly true.
So after a few weeks I asked her for something fun again (this time with others, as she had suggested), but she couldn't come. She mailed me back, said that she didn't really see us happening by the way.

I said that's ok, I wouldn't have too high expectations and we would see what happened.

Now it's almost 2 months since I've seen her, and I've "lost that lovin' feelin'." I still like her a lot, but I see things in perspective now. Maybe we're not a good match. I'll just see if the feeling returns when we hang out again.

Angrist · 10-11-2008, 03:16 AM

So I hadn't heard of her in weeks and I decided not to contact her.

Then 2 days ago I got a mail from her. That she wants to see me on monday.

(But yeah, it had the disclaimer that I shouldn't suddenly expect much, which I wouldn't have had anyway.)

Ignoring women is the best tactic.

Dylflon · 10-11-2008, 05:35 AM

This is the most depressing thread.

Bube · 10-11-2008, 06:54 AM

I could probably liven things up a bit. But I prefer not to

Swan · 10-11-2008, 06:50 PM

Just remember when she says no she really means yes

Seth · 10-11-2008, 07:00 PM

Angrist, you're a JW. Goodluck finding a girl(who isn't a cult member)....but like Typhoid said, think platonic friendship...but invest your interests in positive self development before chasing tail, cuz it'll all crash down around you if you don't have your shit together first. Sorry for the harsh advice but i'm just trying to toughlove you a bit. I know you're a nice guy who doesn't want to take advantage of women...that's why it's important to not let infatuation with a beutiful girl mess up your head. You're young, keep yourself free.

Angrist · 10-12-2008, 08:15 AM

Thanks. But really, it's not as bad as you guys think.

Ok, I got off to a pretty bad start, falling terribly in love with this girl who didn't really notice me. And thinking too much.

But in the last weeks I kind of forgot about her. I saw her yesterday for a few hours and I was pretty relaxed. I didn't try to grab her attention all the time, it might even have been the opposite, ignoring her a bit more than I'd normally do.
I'll see her tomorrow again. Preaching together, because she asked me to. I'll see how it goes. Again, I'm not expecting much. I'll leave it up to her!

Darn it, I hate how pathetic I sound.

Combine 017 · 10-12-2008, 02:49 PM

Then stop making sounds and start making noise.

Angrist · 02-05-2009, 09:41 AM

I suddenly remembered this thread.

6 weeks ago I knew I was going to meet her. We were both going to do some volunteer cleaning in one of our bigger meeting halls. I hadn't seen her in a while so I was wondering if we'd chat a bit.

I barely spoke her that day. Saw her a few times. At the end of the day I made some innocent joke and she reacted very mean to that. For the first time in 3/4 year, I didn't like her. I suddenly couldn't even remember why I had liked her in the first place.

Haven't seen her since. I guess I kind of like her again, but you might know the feeling... You just let somebody go.

Oh and this summer she's going to Brazil for 5 months.

Dylflon · 02-05-2009, 02:07 PM

Does anyone have a budding romance story with potential and without chaperones?