Ares connection problem

[Canyarion]

Ok I'm trying to use Ares Lite for P2P.
For a while it worked fine.

But now it won't connect to the network!

I DO see all the users that have my songs ready to download, but the downloading never starts. All I get is 'connecting'...
Also when I look at the options, it says it's connecting to the network.

It also messes up my other internet use. Especially the browsers can't find any websites after I've had Ares on for a while.

I'm desperate!
Thanks for the help!!!!

Edit: I have a feeling it might have something to do with my modem and/or opening ports.....