Two better than one?

DimHalo · 03-07-2005, 08:38 PM

Well, I have a little problem and I was hoping I could field it on you before I try to talk to my room mate.

Here's the deal:
1. my room mate's ex-boyfriend (who lives 4 hours away) wants her back.
2. she had not really decided what she wanted to do.
3. then he showed up here on saturday morning.
4. so she had sex with him
5. he left at noon
6. room mate had a first date for a formal on saturday night
7. she brought him back here after the formal
8. they had sex (i assume, heard things...)
9. he was still here on sunday morning

This all bothers me. And the first date guy (from out of town) will be coming back here tomorrow. And will be staying here.

What do you guys think? Would you ever do something like that? Should I not be very bothered by all this? What should I say to her?

PS: An interesting twist to the story; the guy is my Godmother's brother

Jonbo298 · 03-07-2005, 08:55 PM

Wow, crazy

The Germanator · 03-07-2005, 09:00 PM

Hmm, that is quite the interesting situation. Can't say I've ever experienced anything of the sort exactly, but no, I don't think I would do what she did. Would I have sex with an ex if she wanted? Probably... Would I have sex with someone on a first date? Doubtful...Would I do those things on the same day? No chance at all really.

You definitely have a right to be bothered by this. I mean, it's her choice, but if you care for her you might want to talk to her about it. I wouldn't know what I would say to her about it though...

DimHalo · 03-07-2005, 09:06 PM

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Originally Posted by The Germanator

You definitely have a right to be bothered by this. I mean, it's her choice, but if you care for her you might want to talk to her about it. I wouldn't know what I would say to her about it though...

That is the part that I was wondering about. At first I was just wanting to make sure I wasn't just being a prude. But so what exactly do I say to her to let her know that it concerns me.

ZebraRampage · 03-07-2005, 10:21 PM

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Originally Posted by jeepnut's slave

That is the part that I was wondering about. At first I was just wanting to make sure I wasn't just being a prude. But so what exactly do I say to her to let her know that it concerns me.

It won't be easy. If you bring this up to her, she'll possibly get hostile about it, and then you two might get into a fight. I guess I don't have an answer then. All I know is that what she did is wrong in my mind. Maybe you could try to show her the situation from a different perspective. That didn't answer your question yet though.

GameMaster · 03-07-2005, 11:04 PM

It depends on whether you're friends with her at all or not. If you're not close to her, I'd consider telling both guys, since they're the ones being violated/cheated. She's the one who's at fault.

If you're friends with her, I'd ask her if she told both guys that she was seeing another person at the same time. If she didn't, I think you should advice her to tell both guys that she's involved with multiple people. They need to be informed of what kind of relationship they're involved in. If she doesn't tell them, you need to.

CamFu · 03-07-2005, 11:08 PM

Going to keep this short and sweet. It goes along with what GameMaster said...

Know your Bounderies.

You might care for her, but there are endless reasons she is acting this way. Try to find out why before you start talking about how dissapointed you are. I was in this type of situation a long time ago (me being one of the guys). This could really hurt your relationship with her, so becareful.