very fine line....

Su-Yin · 02-03-2005, 11:01 AM

between a crush....infatuation..and love..

honestly...the difference between these four are still vague to me
i guess a crush is when ur physically attracted to someone ....like in one of those love at first sight fantasies...
and an infatuation is when it grows into something more....when u get obsessed and u cant stop thinking about that person...
and love would be when you feel secure and comfortable sharing your life with that one person....everything about him/her means alot to you....you get all smiley and excited when you think of him/her .....*shrug* u get excited as well when ur infatuated...lol

its really difficult to tell the difference especially during the first few weeks of having that tingly feeling of butterflies in ur stomach/ ur cheeks flushing

people get obsessed and dont realise what it is....but i guess u can tell its love when it doesnt fade after a longer period of time...
i know some wont agree with me on this....but anyhooo...i wanna c what everyone else thinks

Blackmane · 02-03-2005, 01:03 PM

I agree with you. I think that alot of people mistake having a crush, or especially feeling infatuated, with actually being in love. All these people getting married so fast is people thinking they're in love when really, they are just infatuated with each other. That is why many marriages don't last anymore, because they are based on infatuation and not true everlasting love.

Vampyr · 02-03-2005, 05:11 PM

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I agree with you. I think that alot of people mistake having a crush, or especially feeling infatuated, with actually being in love. All these people getting married so fast is people thinking they're in love when really, they are just infatuated with each other. That is why many marriages don't last anymore, because they are based on infatuation and not true everlasting love.

And it's way too easy to get a divorce now days anyway.

When I see teenagers getting married, I just shake my head at the naivity. Silly silly people. I believe that true love between teenagers is extremely rare, hardly ever happening, if ever.

It's not love, it's adolescent teen lust. And if it does by some miracle happen to be love, I don't think you can truely realize it for that until you are older.

Then again I don't have "crush's" either. I havn't "liked" someone for nearly two years. I laugh inside when I here people saying who they "like". I like to think I've out grown that. I take things as they come, and never limit myself to "liking" one girl. I'll flirt and date multiple people, unless we have mutually agreed to be in a "relationship".

Typhoid · 02-03-2005, 05:42 PM

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Originally Posted by Happydudette

between a crush....infatuation..and love..

honestly...the difference between these four are still vague to me

3.

Theres 3 things there hun,

(I didn't do that to be an ass....to let you know, lol)

Well, Lots of people mistake things for being things they aren't.

Personally, I think a crush and being infatuated with someone are relatively the same.

But love is different.

When you're in love, you'll know it. You wont mistake it for anything else. You cant. Its unmistakable.

But some people take their feelings too far.

They manifest their own love. They could have a minor crush on someone, yet, if they haven't ever had a BF or GF, they might think they love that person because they are the only person who has ever been close to them.

I think a crush is purely a thing that you get over people you don't know too well. I never get crushes over any of my Girl Friends now, because I know them. Did I have crushes on them before I knew extensive things? Sure. Of course. I think the infatuation thing is on the same line as a crush. In my mind anyways.

Like I said, Love is unmistakable. You cant explain it, except for the fact of saying you cant explain it. You'll just know.

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When I see teenagers getting married, I just shake my head at the naivity. Silly silly people. I believe that true love between teenagers is extremely rare, hardly ever happening, if ever.

It's not love, it's adolescent teen lust. And if it does by some miracle happen to be love, I don't think you can truely realize it for that until you are older.

You can realize love at any age. If anyone should know, its me, haha, and of all people on the boards, you know what I mean.

You don't have to be a certain age to realize love. You don't have to be a certain age to be in love. Love has no pre-requests. Love has no barriers. You don't pick who you love, It picks you. It can be at any time, anywhere.

Blackmane · 02-03-2005, 05:59 PM

But younger people are most prone to falling into the mistake of thinking they are in love when they aren't. Teenagers especially confuse lust and infatuation with love and end up stepping into something too fast more often because they are inexperienced in love and have not felt it before so they do not know what to expect.

That is why you so often hear teens saying they're in love with so-and-so and then a week later, they have broken up. It wasn't love, because love doesn't just go away. It is something more lasting.

Even if teens did find true love, like Vampyr said, they are not able to truely appreciate it.

GameMaster · 02-03-2005, 06:09 PM

I think love is when you really know a person and a crush is when you like someone based on how you perceive them to be and their appearance.

Stray_Bullet · 02-03-2005, 06:58 PM

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I think love is when you really know a person and a crush is when you like someone based on how you perceive them to be and their appearance.

Yes, a crush is guesswork...

Now, what about like, lust, and love? Those are also uneasily discernable.

dropCGCF · 02-03-2005, 08:21 PM

True love is being able to jump in front of a loaded gun for someone without second-thought or remorse.

Vampyr · 02-04-2005, 06:53 AM

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Originally Posted by Typh

You can realize love at any age. If anyone should know, its me, haha, and of all people on the boards, you know what I mean.

You don't have to be a certain age to realize love. You don't have to be a certain age to be in love. Love has no pre-requests. Love has no barriers. You don't pick who you love, It picks you. It can be at any time, anywhere.

I've also called you naive before. :\

TheSlyMoogle · 02-04-2005, 08:56 AM

A think a crush, lust, and infatuation is basically the same thing. You're obsessed with someone you don't really know, basically just really lame stuff there.

I think you should take it down a step below a crush and add attraction, because that's really not the same thing as a crush.

As for Love, it hits you like a cyclone, all at once without warning.

I think love is when you can wake up in the morning and open-mouth kiss the person you're in love with, even if they have the most disgusting morning breath ever, and still enjoy it. I think love is, like drop said, jumping in front of a bullet without heistation for the person you love. I think it's when you find someone you care for just as much as, or more than you care about yourself.

Love is a many splendid thing. Love, it lifts us up where we belong! LOVE!

Lol.

Ace195 · 02-04-2005, 10:00 AM

Who are you and what have you done with the "sly" moogle ? eh, I agree with some of it, I love without question. Even though I'm thousands of miles away I still trust her more than I trust myself.

I also think that love is being willing to put aside one week of your life to make their every wish come true. atleast once a year

Yan · 02-04-2005, 10:56 AM

Long post ahead.

I am ashamed to say that there are times when I still do not know how to differentiate between a crush/lust/infatuation and true love.

Thinking back, there were time when I was sure that I was in love. Conversation between the person in question and I flowed easily, he was intelligent, older and so wise and not to mention, gorgeous.

I was smitten, of course.

When analysed further, it all became more and more confusing. I don't know WHY I fancied him, just because he's someone that I could truly love as a person or just because I was excited by the prospect of being able to love someone that fits into my mould of what I want i.e. lust.

Even in my current relationship where we have said our 'I Love You' plenty of times, sometimes I am not sure. Of course, I care for him deeply but I do wonder if I actually love him for who he is or what I want him to be.

I hate self analysing and I feel like a downright idiot now.

Yan · 02-04-2005, 10:57 AM

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Love is a many splendid thing. Love, it lifts us up where we belong! LOVE!

Lol.

Lol... I love that movie and I pretty much have memorised that whole song.

Blackmane · 02-04-2005, 11:07 AM

All you need is love!

...please, don't start that again.

Yan · 02-04-2005, 11:23 AM

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All you need is love!

...please, don't start that again.

So cheesy but it brings a smile to your face

I think the relationship between Satine and Christian can be described as an infatuation...which led to more complicated things. It made him too persistant, which she couldn't refuse because she needed someone like him in her life.

P/s: The main reason I started yapping about Moulin Rouge is because I am trying soooo hard not to type out the whole lyrics here. This is a different form of release

/me really needs to sleep.