[Seth]

I had a PK puke while making out. Had no idea she was that drunk. Ahhh the follies of my youth.

Abstinence.

There's a lot of reasoning that has brought me to this stance, which is a difficult stance don't fool it up. I had a lot of sex in my last serious relationship. It's not a case of isolating the variables in a relationship, trying to find what exactly was so fucked up about the whole scenario. But all that aside, to me, now...at this point in my life, I don't want to have sex with a girl until I'm married to her. Here are my main reasons:

STd's. The westcoast is a breeding ground for ghonno. This little dr smirk quirk isn't only about protecting oneself from disability, it's a matter of life outlook. I plan on having a family at some point in my life. does my present self feel that the risk of contracting a std isn't great enough against the momentary orgasm that gets stacked against. Sex is highly mental. I don't need it for my ego, and I don't need to find tail to knock off my ragin libido. My future spouse will hopefully appreciate the consideration, and it'll be a mutual thing. hopefully...

Guilt. I have a firm belief that sexuality is something that transcends the mundane things in life that we all see as being part of a rich day to day experience. Savouring the luscious smell of a ripe tomato is different than participating in intercourse. From what I've found for myself, the emotional strain of connecting with someone on that level without having committed to the security and well being of that person is an act of selfishness which, despite what the other person desires, isn't conducive to spiritual, physical, and emotional well-being.

By having sex with a 'lady' without the societal recognition of bonding(and yo yo, we are intrinsically social creatures) through marriage, the subconscious does this tricky thing; it tries to figure out the trust dilemma that occurs when there's 'no strings attached' sex. imo any bangbang outside of lifetime commitment is no strings attached. This creates an emotional environment for both people that doesn't lead to a nurturing relationship progression. It's like moving in with someone before marriage, testing out the waters so to speak. What studies have shown is that those who wait to cohabitate until after marriage have a far healthier married life,, with a much lower incidence of divorce.

From my point of view, it's a lot easier to get to know the 'real' person when the leverage of sex isn't in the picture.
Some will disagree but to me it's a matter of selfishness. What entitles us to think that sex is this wonderful thing that should be shared around town? I'm not going to point fingers at the cultural staples which reinforce this perspective....we all know how sex is portrayed in pop culture.

other risks. If a girl gets prego'd by...you/I whoever, then there's a dilemma if it's outside of a committed relationship. does the man stay because a) he really does love her and wants to do the best for both her and the soon to be or b) he's now obligated to contract up with a btch that he really only wanted to tap, not choose hardwood flooring with.
This is a hardcore subconscious hair pulling monkey on any relationship. Is this person only with me because of sex, in that, are they here for the pleasure, habit, guilt, etc. Maybe the postmodern world doesn't need committed relationships in order to produce a high functioning society.......I don't see it as such since this seems to contradict the natural state of family units within a broader society. The alternative is to view sex as something not so serious and that it should be a natural part of growing up and growing old. You sir, will sleep with many women. Those women will sleep with many different men. That's the lot of life.
I don't believe this has to be the case and that it really is up to me to dictate how my life/relationships unfold. I've come to the point where I need a meaningful sex life instead of just pumping some chick out and thinking the whole time just what I'm buying into. Sex is great.....but to me it's lost its appeal outside of marriage.

Some see marriage as a religious phenomena and thus, it's archaic in it's requirements..blabah. Well, I'd like to know what you guys think. I feel that marriage is a natural phenomena of the human spirit. There's a need to feel loved. To love and to trust. Why sabotage life because so and so said that the american dream is fuck as many 9's as possible. Barny in HIMYM is a comical parody of the topic.

So yeah, abstinence. It's cool kids.


Priests being required to abstain from marriage is ludicrous and unBiblical. Just like most of 'Christendom'. But hey it's the church! What 'they' say is canon right. Just thought I'd mention cuz abstinence for life is as crazy as random hookups.