[Stray_Bullet]

What I do is based on a combination of how confident I am that I'll be with her for the rest of my life, and how comfortable I am (she's my first girlfriend).

She was in a relationship of three years before she was with me (she being the dumpee). They'd done it all (except for sex, which is good for us), so she's not uncomfortable with it. It also, however, drives me a bit to try to catch up to her. I've been pacing it though.

But, uh, marriage isn't important, morally, to me. It is, however, important because it's a sign of commitment. I don't want to start having sex, have a relationship end, and go into a new relationship already having had sex. I wouldn't know how to pace it properly.

I'm very confident with my relationship... Hell, I felt I had to have been when I asked her, because of the circumstances. Engagement will be enough, I believe.