Im not saying i didnt realize it.
I talked to Dyne about this on MSN.
Its the fact you didn't even offer to do it. You just went up first without even saying anything. Im not saying do it all the god damn time.
Phil said on MSN that you want her to pull her own weight and pay for her own meals.
Hypothetical here, what if you went out to a restaurant, would you make her pay her half of the bill? Its called being nice, not asskissing. I buy my girl/friends and my guy friends things all the time, it doesnt mean im kissing there ass, it means im being nice and showing my friendship.
Phil also said you shouldnt go to a restaurant because its predictable, and girls dont like predictable guys.
I agree here, but after so long of being un-predictable, she wouldn't predict you asking her to go out to a restaurant. Correct? See, so after so long of being unpredictable, you have to change your views, or else some of them become slightly predictable.
Im not in any means disagreeing with him at all, i would just act like myself on a date, and apparently and "unfortunately" that involes buying things. And im sorry to say it works. Im not talking about buying every god damn thing for her, just from time to time, like ( for instance) a coffee or lunch.
Like Phil said, she came to see you, true. So why not go sit next to the dumpster in the alley? She came to see you, so the setting shouldnt matter.
All in all what i was saying a while ago was that it might have come off weird, because you said you ordered first, and didnt even stop to ask her if she even wanted a muffin or anything like that.
( And i dont know why you needed advice from him anyways. You've known her for a while, act normal. Don't say things you wouldnt say, do things you wouldnt do, wear things you wouldnt wear. I know its lame and tacky, but the best strategy to get a girl is dont care, and be yourself. Girls like guys who are themselves, they can tell when your doing /saying etc. something you dont normally do/say)