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I have a question, and a very strange one at that. Before I go on though, wouldn't this forum have been better left alone until February? Well... Maybe we'll do Black History next month instead.

Anyway my question is:

Do you think it's possible for you, yes that means YOU, to fall in love with someone of the same gender as yourself, even though you might be heterosexual, or if you were homosexual do you think you could fall in love with someone of the opposite sex?

I mean do you think you could fall in love with this person and care for them, even be able to passionately uh you know *GET IT ON* with them?

Just curious.

My Answer:
I think that it would ultimately be possible for me to fall in love with someone of my own gender, but I feel that I could never really give them 100% of my interest. I would always be checking out girls and the drive for that would be to immense to really cut off. So I would never really try to get involved with someone of the same sex or anything like that.

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Same sex just doesn't work for me. I'm completely straight.

Love has the big two making it up: Attraction and Affection. I could never feel affection for another guy, so it wouldn't work out. It's an instinctual thing.

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I don't think I would go that far with another Dude. The majority of people right now who I care about the most are guy's, but I could never see myself being involved with them in anything sexual.

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Perhaps a more interesting question: Would you fall in love with yourself?

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Well hey, I'm living proof. I'm sure there's others!

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Mhmmm ;)

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yes i could

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I think about it this way...picture yourself in the army....no women around, now im not saying your looking for someone to f***, im saying you spend all your time with say a certain guy, you start to feel for him (or girl if your a girl). You might not want to have sex with them, but you care for them.

And No, I wouldnt be able to fall in love with a member of the same sex.

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no way...no how.

although i do call guys handsome and sexy from time to time...and only with happydudette :p, but i am totally strait...*thinks of getting it on with a guy* :Puke:

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hmm... this is kinda hard to answer because i've never even truly LIKED any girls. lol. sure, i'll agree that someone of my gender is hot, and i really think so but i could never have a relationship or "fall in love" with a girl i don't think. i really don't like girls. *shrug*

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Nah, my relationship with myself is strictly physical.

Anyway....to answer the question, no. I just don't swing that way, no matter how many islands you abondon me on with only dudes, and no matter what insane hypothetical scenario you create, it won't happen. The male anatomy is mostly physical anyway.....you leave me at war, I won't fall in love with a dude.....I might be able to secret a part of me to a brick wall or something, but that's strictly physical.

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I disagree. I think otherwise, actually...

I doubt that I'll ever be attracted to a female. I do perve on girls alot but other than admiring their bodies and silently hoping that I look 1/8 like them, there hardly is any type of attraction that i feel will lead to the "getting it on part" :lol:

I'm not ruling anything out though ;). People change.

With affection, well, I'm pretty affectionate with my female friends. In your context, I think you are probably referring to a more intimate form of affection. Non sexual form of contact such as hugging can also be intrepreted as affection.

I think I have used the word 'affection' and its various forms too many times throughout the last paragraph. I can feel my English teacher getting a heart attack >.<

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hmm, tough question (and I could care less who read what I say, *cough*)

I could never fall in love with the person of my same gender but if I had a girlfriend or wife or whatever who wanted a threesome with 2 guys and her, I wouldn't mind (as long as she returns it later with 2 females, etc..). Other then that, I won't just go with a guy only for months/years. Just doesn't feel right. Females for teh win :p

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It is against my programming.

I may have fun with a guy and have many things in common with him. In fact, he may be attractive. However, I myself am attracted to women, it is how I was designed.

I require more of "love" than emotional dependancy. And, no matter how well I get along with a guy, I'll never have the desire to do the things to him that I'd do to women (or my girlfriend in particular)

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i really dont know....ive always liked looking at girls more than guys.....but happydude makes me feel real good.....i could assume im perfectly straight...but i feel at the end of the day...wahts important is the person and not the gender...*shrug*.....i dont think i would completely dismiss the idea of 'girlfriend'....but id rather stay in a happy straight twosome with happydude....:D......

*personal msg for happydude: hun...no ideas....answer is no :p ;)

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BLAST!

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I don't think so. I'm willing to argue that you are born with your sexuality, and if not, I would say most people are only pliable for the first year or two of their life. Sexuality has yet to be linked to genetics, but I sort of think we might find a connection, eventually.

A lot of gay people don't come out with the fact that they are gay because they live in a society that frowns upon homosexuality, or maybe their parents do not support their choice. I think people know what their sexuality is, and they don't change - I do think that the environment around them affects their sexual choices and preferences, for a time, but not ultimately.

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This reminds me of a question I was asked awhile ago, a girl I know asked me if I was bi. I said no, but unsurely. Anyways...

I do believe people change, I used to be scared of ever doing stuff that would be even considered homoerotic. But now, I've matured, and am secure with my sexuality. I'm not afraid to act like it. Just ask Typhoid, we've had to times together...no, not like that.

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Right, you were scared. You knew your sexuality all along, it was in you, you just had not yet found it, or let it take command of your life. I have no doubt in my mind that people repress, hold back and even deny their sexuality, but I believe that people are a certain sexuality and they cannot change it.

Environments can affect your sexual choices, but I still do not believe they can change your sexuality.

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I could never see myself having sex (or anything like it) with another guy...

However I can see myself hugging, cuddling with, and lap-sitting (lap-sitting? o.O), along with saying various suggestive things, to another male, because that's what I do with my best friend...

And although it is in a half-joking way, if anybody else (male or female) tried to get that close to me I'd get nervous and move very suddenly in the direction opposite of them...

But for some reason a switch in my head made it ok for him to be inside my personal bubble... Because I'm comfortable enough with him doing so, and comfortable enough to act like that in front of other people...

Not sure if that necesarily has to do with love (although love is whatever we make it out to be)... But it's somewhat the same idea...

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Lap dancing?

Me and Typoid hadn't known each other long, but we we're semicomfortable. Well, technically, he wasn't he got scared. Making me the winner!

I bit Fox 6 once.

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No, I meant sitting on each other's laps...

IT'S FUN!

People say we look cute... :sneaky:

I am bleeding, making me the victor...

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love in a romantic sense? no...guys disgust me. I disgust me, and I'm a confident person


I think females are crazier than males, more irrational, and often blow things out of proportion. But I love 'em ;)

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Or at least parts of them.

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DOUBLE POST!

Sorry, just wanted to point that out. I have nothing else to add.

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what double post? :hmm:


you didn't take your medicine today, have you?

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Wha?


Who doubleposted? :confused:


Stop being so cow tittedly confusing.

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Do you have any conditions I should know about?
Konrad Zuse. :-)What is your real name?

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Gremlin originally double-posted. he's since deleted his first post.

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Who is this Konrad Zuse you speak of?
He is not in my memory banks. My really name is Deejz C. Guy. What is yours? I do not have enough information to answer the question of first.

*explodes*

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It's funny. I didn't make it into this thread, or know what it was about, until today. And yet, I was thinking about this same thing the other day. Perhaps even the day that this was posted. Trying to decide what makes me heterosexual. Isn't it funny how you can go days, months, even years without something coming up - and then all of the sudden it gets mentioned five times in one day in completely unrelated places? Like the universe was just set up so that it was way more likely for a subject to come up on that day? Bizarre. I wish there was a word for that. I dub it: Extraubiquial (waits for Latin gurus ((Xantar)) to throw stones).

At any rate, back to the matter at hand: sexuality. The conclusion I reached (and much more quickly than I had anticipated) was that I could get very close to a guy. Be extremely emotionally close to them and perhaps even to say the big three words. However, without physical attraction I could never have any relationship with them more than a friend. And I am simply not attracted to men at all. The physical attraction isn't there, and I have no need to contemplate it further.

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Nope, I don't think I could ever fall in love with a woman.

Sexual attraction is a major part of being in love. I don't believe you can be in love with somebody you are not sexually attracted to because :-

1. It is unfair on the other person
2. Sex is important for a loving relationship. I'm no sex doctor, but there is a feeling of closeness being with that somebody special.
3. I've tried to fall in love with a few girls myself, and it just didn't happen as there was no chemistry.

Don't think I could go with a girl..........plus I'm already in love with somebody atm ;)

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i'm still in a state of shock about this :p

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lol.......

it's ok. My friends were as well, but after a month or so, everything went back to normal :D

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So wait, you're a guy, you're gay, and you play video games?

I'm not in shock about the first part, it's the last part that's shocking...

I've met one gay guy in my lifetime who played video games... I thought they didn't exist. LOL!

I feel that as long as your sexuality (gay or straight) doesn't get in the way of video games, the world will be ok.