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haha I wish i was legal age ;)

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We shall see...


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Speaking of drinking, that was the best way to end a competition. :p

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Ok I have my own weird thing going on right now, here it is:

2 weeks ago a girl of 19 and me discovered we liked eachother and we decided to give it a chance. We were unsure at first, but every time we've met, it's been great. I really love her and think it can/will work out. I might marry her one day.

The thing is.... I'm scared. :unsure: So incredibly afraid of something, of her, of us. I don't understand why, but it makes my stomach ache when I think too much about it. First I thought it was maybe because of my ex, but I don't think that's it. Then I thought maybe we're just not a good combination but that isn't true either, we're great together.

Did anyone ever have that? Being afraid of good things to come? Afraid of a relation?

I came up with the following possible reasons:
- I'm just not ready yet, it's going too fast.
- She's 4.5 years younger than me and 8 years younger than my ex, it's so different.
- She might break up for the same reason my ex did... (some kind of nasty past I've had that's hard to accept - she has the right to know, I want to tell her in 1.5 months).

Today we talked about it and decided to take it very slowly, we specified 'slowly' (only meet 1 or 2x a week etc.).
Any thoughts/advice?

(PS: a few months ago I really got over my ex... when she wouldn't answer my mail. I'm disapointed by her, her love wasn't deep enough. I'd like to think that we were such a good match that we didn't have to love eachother very much... which caused problems in the long run.)

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dude, i think your first problem is talking about 'falling in love' and a possible marriage TWO WEEKS after 'discovering [you] liked eachother".

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Ok, good point.

But other than that, isn't it weird that one moment I'm crazy about her and the next I'm afraid?

Hm I do realise that the best you can probably say is "just wait and see"... I just need some confidence.

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I think you should read: The Four Loves by C.S. Lewis.

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I agree with Perfect Stu, the first time i really got alone with my ex...it was like OMG i want to be with you for ever...probably just excitement but i got over her fast because i realized were better off being friends. The way i see it is when i am interested in a girl, if i date her for a bit and it doesnt end up perfectly i always try to end it nicely and show them that were better off friends because i was genuinely attracted and i liked things about her.