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Yeah...




No.

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so besides like playing video games with this chick, have you like, made it to first base yet?

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yeah i have :) second base was right there until weird stuff started hapening

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well then, get crackin', defend your honor

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Well, after a year I started to realise that she really didn't want me. I focussed more on the negative aspects of our relationship and figured that if she didn't break up over reason A in 2005, she would have over reason B in 2010. She just didn't have the love that's essential for a marriage.

Now with my new girlfriend, it doesn't have the wow-factor that my ex had in the beginning, but we're connecting on a deeper level, we talk better about emotional things. That's is way more important than the surface level, everything that goes wrong there, you can catch in the deeper levels. :)

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Wasted Wednesday?

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Hmm, so your ex was a high school sweetheart?

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My ex was somebody I had mailed with for 2 years when we met up in real life. We both fell in love immediately, it was a great combo on first sight. Some examples: both vegetarian, we both liked LotR and Star Wars, fan of the same artists, both a bit crazy...

We were good together, we had a great time. I asked her to marry me and we became engaged. But now I see that she loved me as long as she had fun. When something came up that she hated so much, she decided to break up. Her love wasn't deep enough. I can't live with such a love, I'd always be scared she'd leave me.

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spring break

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yeah im on spring break for two weeks, and so far its pretty nice...

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Dylflon....I almost get the feeling when they talk about a Dylan whipping it out that they are talking about me. It is something would do. I was pantsless and drunk at some elementary school around 3am a few weeks ago.



PS Foxxy, we need to partay more

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yeah, come to think of it i believe we've only been to a handful of partays together

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can i come to a partay with you?

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You up for the chance of maybe being lit on fire when you pass out?

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or worried about being drawn on if you pass out? and peanut butter... right dylan :sneaky:

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I've topped that. Drawing on. Lighting people on fire. Apparently used condoms in the pocktets.

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haha i dont pass out i are heavy weight but i have drawn on people, coloured the inside of their noses and filled their pants with whipcream /lol

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update guys
lsat night i was at work and a bunch of my friends walked in, girlfriend aswell i greeted her gave me the coldest shoulder ever. literally. and my boss commented on how much of a bitch she was being. Anyway when i got home they were all at my place playing video games looking at cars etc etc anyway spoke to her in a nother area and told her that you know shes been acting kind of weird and i knew she was having some problems or soemthign with me or soemthing like that becaue right now everyone is up in the air and i have no idea whats going on. Anyway she really couldnt give me a answer but i did it in such a way that she felt comfortable to hang around me and treat me as a friend anyway later we spoke over the phone, and i recommended that maybe we should just be friends. Anyway she wasnt sure she didnt really want to but I kind of forced her into an answer, so now were just friends... anyway i think its better, i dont think it was right match anyway. Anyway thanks for all your advice. Im better off now. After we started dating this thing showed me that i really didnt want to be with her...
btw who ever said you have to get in, in the first two weeks good job i totally agree with you 100%

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R.I.P.

Here lies period.

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Oh high school kids and their high school problems/parties.

Enjoy it now. You won't think drinking and dumb parties where people put cummy condoms in your pockets are as cool anymore the minute you turn ninteen.

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haha I wish i was legal age ;)

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We shall see...


MUAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA

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Speaking of drinking, that was the best way to end a competition. :p

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Ok I have my own weird thing going on right now, here it is:

2 weeks ago a girl of 19 and me discovered we liked eachother and we decided to give it a chance. We were unsure at first, but every time we've met, it's been great. I really love her and think it can/will work out. I might marry her one day.

The thing is.... I'm scared. :unsure: So incredibly afraid of something, of her, of us. I don't understand why, but it makes my stomach ache when I think too much about it. First I thought it was maybe because of my ex, but I don't think that's it. Then I thought maybe we're just not a good combination but that isn't true either, we're great together.

Did anyone ever have that? Being afraid of good things to come? Afraid of a relation?

I came up with the following possible reasons:
- I'm just not ready yet, it's going too fast.
- She's 4.5 years younger than me and 8 years younger than my ex, it's so different.
- She might break up for the same reason my ex did... (some kind of nasty past I've had that's hard to accept - she has the right to know, I want to tell her in 1.5 months).

Today we talked about it and decided to take it very slowly, we specified 'slowly' (only meet 1 or 2x a week etc.).
Any thoughts/advice?

(PS: a few months ago I really got over my ex... when she wouldn't answer my mail. I'm disapointed by her, her love wasn't deep enough. I'd like to think that we were such a good match that we didn't have to love eachother very much... which caused problems in the long run.)

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dude, i think your first problem is talking about 'falling in love' and a possible marriage TWO WEEKS after 'discovering [you] liked eachother".

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Ok, good point.

But other than that, isn't it weird that one moment I'm crazy about her and the next I'm afraid?

Hm I do realise that the best you can probably say is "just wait and see"... I just need some confidence.

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I think you should read: The Four Loves by C.S. Lewis.

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I agree with Perfect Stu, the first time i really got alone with my ex...it was like OMG i want to be with you for ever...probably just excitement but i got over her fast because i realized were better off being friends. The way i see it is when i am interested in a girl, if i date her for a bit and it doesnt end up perfectly i always try to end it nicely and show them that were better off friends because i was genuinely attracted and i liked things about her.