Re: Towards a career? or backstabbed?
 

He sounds like he's an angry guy. He could probably still use somebody to talk to. I was like that when I was younger (crazy hormones you know).

Anyway, it's not your responsibility to be there for him when he screws up and acts like a jerk. But just keep it in mind. I'm guessing he knows he screwed up and feels dumb about it. But he'll never admit that if it is true, and maybe it isn't. At any rate, it wasn't your fault. He's probably got some warped sense of pride and thought it was your duty to stand up for him and by taking the job he feels betrayed.

At any rate, you didn't do anything wrong. Do what you gotta do.

Re: Towards a career? or backstabbed?
 

well, i talked to the kid, or at least tried, i was the bigger person and called him yesterday afternoon, he was very pissed still and kept hanging up on me, so finally i stated AT LEAST LET ME TALK TO YOU, GIVE ME THAT AT LEAST! it usually works on pretty much anyone--- so i talked to him for a bit, told him that i went in yestersay morning and told his boss that i wasnt interested in the job, that made him feel a little better (but!) according to him he doesnt think i took it.... but reality shows that i didnt decline from it and pretty much everyone knows but him and his family, i know its wrong but damnit! he has no right to be mad for that, anywho.. back to the discussion, i talked to him for awhile, then i got him to talk occassionally, (for some reason when people are pissed or sad, i can for some reason usually get em to vent) that pretty much sums up the argument/conversation he said he didnt mean to say the things he said wednesday and also stated that you may have pissed me off, but i love you too much to just get rid of you, especially over a stupid job, so things are great, when we started talking he was majorly pissed and by the end he at least showed some signs of happiness, he was smiling..

Re: Towards a career? or backstabbed?
 

sounds like you're a great person

Re: Towards a career? or backstabbed?
 

The only thing you did wrong was go out with a bad-attitude guy like that in the first place.

You deserve better than a jackass who's probably just mad at his own life; he'll only bring you down, too. Move on and don't look back.

I'm being a blunt asshole, but these things are much simpler than you're making it.

Re: Towards a career? or backstabbed?
 

actually, i think it is a little more complicated than you're making it... of course, how are we all supposed to know, i think she should make that decision for herself

and it seems like you're being a little rough on the guy

Re: Towards a career? or backstabbed?
 

No, it really is simple.

Julie, you're 19. This guy, who is obviously mad for no good reason, doesn't deserve you. Move on. I guarantee you have plenty of time to find a better guy who actually has a life. Especially if you're going to USD, you'll easily find a better guy.

Re: Towards a career? or backstabbed?
 

I guess manasecret is one of those guys that never does anything wrong and always has this perfect clean cut explanation for why he is angry.

Seriously...we all act irrational at times...it's part of our being.

You like someone for the good things about them, but you love them for their defects.