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Yeah I saw her today. Just 2 short chats, nothing special. I hope to get some more contact in the next days. Can't really say any more, except that she was shining like a star.

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Did you get a funny feeling in your pantaloons?

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My feelings for her are 95% between my ears and not in my pants. :D

Shortly talked to her. She was chatting with a guy who she knew she wouldn't see for a long while, so I got little attention (which I understood). But when he was away for 1 minute I made her laugh out loud (I got a oh-you!!-slap :p) and I talked with her friend. She text-messaged me later and we'll probably see eachother a lot more tomorrow.

The way I see it: she's hard to get, but it will get easier further along. In contrast to girls who are easy to get, but cause trouble later on.

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There's this girl I like. She's got a boyfriend. The circumstances of our first meeting were so unreal, I think we kind of have to be together someday. but fuck being a sideline guy so I'm trying to get her outta my head.
And yeah, I'm 22. Had a really fucked up girl for a while and I'm not really recovered from it. I'm probably way to cynical about women but I understand their game..a little. I was going to move to vancouver just to be closer to her but now that my buddy's backed out of the move I think VanIsland and surfing is my lot now instead of being teased and headfucked by a girl who I'm way to infatuated with. I want to tell you guys the story but maybe some other time.

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What....you can't do that. If you bring up a story you have to tell it, it's the rules.

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Especially when we have a sex therapist (or soon to be) on hand. :p

And I personally am always looking for new ways to screw with people's mind.

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So yesterday was great, but I still have this bad taste in my mouth. Again the feeling that she likes me a lot as a friend.

We had a barbecue with 6 others. If there were any 2 people who had the most contact, it was her and me. Talked and laughed a lot. I think everybody understood that I like her.

Her ex was there. He's a nice guy and they're getting along just fine. I think he realized I'm crazy about her. I wonder if that will spread out, and what that will do to her.

Grr, the easy thing to do would be just asking her directly. What's the deal, where am I?

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You probably enjoy what it is now and don't want to possibly ruin it if you ask and get shot down. That's my guess. Getting shot down can lead you to think you'll lose what you have now. I think I repeated myself in a different sense.

Though..in a somewhat similar sense, I had a strange dream last night that I can't get into alot of detail just because I'm still dumbfounded if it means something bound to occur soon from the female side of things. But it involved me, at something like a store or whatever, and some woman talking about me (but in a good way). I think I have an idea why that dream has occurred for the first time in god knows how long, but I don't want to get too explainy just because its a personal thing in explaining it fully.

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I talked with a friend about it. I came to the conclusion that I need to act fast. This is driving me crazy, she's all I can think about. She's on my mind every minute.

The plan is I e-mail her about some stuff. She mails back, hopefully in a nice way. I mail back and ask her if she wants to preach together with me again. If she says yes and we meet, I'm going to make it a nice day and somewhere past the middle I'll steer the conversation towards her and guys. And then I'll say that I'd like to know her better. That should be clear enough and I'll know what to expect.

How's that for a plan?

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I think if you throw in enough "gee whiz"'es and "golly"'s it'd sound like a plan straight out of a 50s sitcom.

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Angrist, do you want my opinion?
It sounds like you are looking for love, or some sort of perfect relationship. But, love isn't a game of chess. Love is a game of baseball...you won't know you've found love and then BAM! The pitcher throws a 99 mile per hour fast ball and it hits you in your fucking head and you'll be on the ground dazed and confused, and then you will know that you are in love.

My point is, the more you sit here and analyze the situation, the more you fabricate hypothetical scenarios in your mind where she either secretly is madly in love with you, or she has no interest in you at all. Likely, it is somewhere in the middle. So, instead of playing chess, play ball. Ask her on a straight up dinner date. Forget preaching...dinner > preaching, at least as far as date material goes.

By the way, here are some signs she likes you. Rather than focusing on signs you manifest in your mind, see if you can find some of these.
-Is she touchy-feely with you? Does she touch your arm a lot or touch your shoulder?
-Do you make on-and-off eye contact? Do you catch her constantly looking at you?
-Does she mimic you....when you do something does she do the same thing?
-Does she laugh at the stupid and horribly lame things you say...say something that's not funny, and see if she laughs.

Those are all pretty decent sub conscience indicators that she is attracted to you. Surprise surprise, regardless of what moral/religious platform you stand on, people still exert sub conscience signs of attraction.

So, your next post to this thread better be, "yes I asked her to dinner" or "yes she does touch my shoulder a lot."

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She touches my arm a lot and laughs at my sometimes bad jokes. :p The eye-contact is great.

Yeah good point. Thanks for the advice about playing ball. :D Maybe I better ask her to do something fun. But I'd rather ask it in person and not over the mail. And I don't see her often enough for that. Maybe I should call her and then ask.

(darn, your post made me feel pretty stupid... but I needed that, thanks!)

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I only now stumbled into this topic and read all of it, and I would have to pretty much agree with everything KG said here, apparently you do as well, which is good.

You just need to man up and act on things, lets say she is interested, you not acting out could DEFINITELY let that interest fade away.

And yes, actually going out somewhere out of your normal life cycle would be the best option, make it a date, make it official.

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Going to call her tomorrow morning (it's 00:00AM now) and ask her if she wants to do something fun.

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Hope that all works out well for you, Grist. I get that friend stuff a lot, so maybe you'll find your way out of it.