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I can tell you why it's so hard for me. I'm insanely shy, especially when it comes to dealing with things like this with girls. There probably have been 4 or 5 times already in my life when I've definitely liked a girl but was too petrified to say anything about it. For me it's not just rejection, but it's embarassment. What if I thought that the girl liked me, was pretty confident, but then when I told her/asked her out, and then she reacts like I'm an idiot...For some reason, I always picture the worst case scenario in my mind before getting courage up to ask a girl out, and for that reason, I've never technically done it. I'm also scared about the aftermath of it all if she said no. I honestly don't think I could handle seeing that person on a daily/regular basis, her knowing that I still probably like her, but me knowing that I have no chance. None of this has ever happened to me because I haven't allowed it to happen, which leaves me a bit desperate at his point. Because if I don't allow myself to do it, then there will be a whole lot of lonely years ahead for me. So it goes.

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just go...."okay; flattered; thanks".....calmly turn around.... walk away ...and run!...duck for a shoe if one comes flying uri way

lol.....i dont know...realistically speaking, i usually dont give a reaction...i change the subject...but if the person means alot to me i would just apologize and tell them i dont love them the same way i do.
the worst reaction a person could do in this situation is just say "yes i love u too" and lead the person on....personally experienced being the victim...:( wasnt a pretty sight when i found out the truth

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Well, he was my boyfriend and I didn't want to "run away" as you say. So, I just told him thank you and calmly explained that I couldn't say it back to him. He said it was ok. I broke up with him a few weeks later.

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Oh... Well that's kind of sad for him, poor guy.

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We're talking about saying it for the first time? Cause I really tell my girlfriend I love her almost every day!

But the first time.... it was hard.... You really love that person.... but when you say that, and she/he doesn't love you back, you could also ruin your friendship. So you try to find out what she thinks of you.

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Yeah I tell my girlfriend I love her everyday, and I am IN love with her too and she is with me.

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That's exactly how I used to be.

You just have to remember the saying, "If you don't look for a relationship in a woman first, they'll look for one in you."

Also, if you look closely, there's hidden meaning in that quote. It says woman, not girl.

I will be damned if I'm ever caught saying if I like a girl or not through straight language.

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hmmm... love is a word that's tossed around a lot nowadays.

i've grown up never saying it, even if you DID love someone. my family just isn't like that, so if i tell someone i love them, i usually really really REALLY mean it.

when people do nothing but tell each other how much they love each other, i think it cheapens it.

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It's like everything else in the world.

The more of it you have, the less the value.

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Yes!

I hadn't heard that beforehand... but it's working out quite nicely.

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I sometimes feel I throw out the words "I love you" too much without really thinking about whether I truly love the person or not. I am mainly speaking about my g/f, but it happens in general too. Most of the time when I say i love someone, I really just care about them a great deal.

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I hate saying "I love you" because I hate the phrase "I love you"... when it's coming from me at least, it sounds, feels, and looks (that's right, looks) awkward...

And because I'd be lying...

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I'm just afraid of the commitment that's involved.

commitment is a scary thing when at the tender age of 19.