SHe JUST WONT LEAVEeee...ArrgH*

[Su-Yin]

okay..this sounds so f***ing mean of me...but its starting to drive me nutz and i just have no idea what to do...i cant blieve im actually posting it on a forum...sigH*..ive got a girlfriend...weve been friends for a long ass time.....like 7-8 years...well im studying in sydney now..and shes here too...i would suppose shes a real nice friend and stuff...but she gets carried away sometimes...by other ppl who she thinks she rather hang out with(other than me) cuz im not her 'type'...well back to the point...shes got male issues...and her so called friends are neglecting her....and she comes running to me..i dont mind im happy to lend a hug...she comes to my place for lunch..and refuses to leave..its the third day...she wakes me up at 6/7 in the morning and asks for hugs and just cries for hours...i lie in bed..hug her...and well...she politely asks if she could stay another day...im like -_-'.....cuz first..im busy at uni and gym and stuff...and i really love privacy..someone living in my room bugs me..she eats all the stuff in the fridge(not mine) its my housemates..and keeps quiet about it..everytime im out..she freaking yaps on the phone like its ****ing free and she doesnt think i mind...she wears my clothes and wants to take them home with her cuz she cant wear the boyfriends jumpers anymore...im really starting to feel shes faking it...when shes hungry i go out and buyfood for her and stuff..and she just refuses to leave my room...she never offers to pay for any of her meals and well..im down to my very last penny...i really love her and i care..thats y i let her stay...but the thing is..how the **** do i tell her its not alright cuz im not comfortable...she gets all *....yin...please....please can i stay one more day...i hope its all right *teary eyed*..."....im like...yeahhhhhhh....its kay...*fakes a smile...
there...help me...

[Ginkasa]

Just tell her how you feel; set some boundries. If she still continues to act like that, kick her out.

Simple.


*shrugs and walks away*

[Typhoid]

Um...im not a genius here, but maybe you should tell her. Just say your housemate or roommate or whatever doesnt want her there anymore because she is eating all the food. If you dont tell her to f*** off ( but in a polite way) she will keep mooching off of you for a long time.

[Su-Yin]

Um...im not a genius here, but maybe you should tell her. Just say your housemate or roommate or whatever doesnt want her there anymore because she is eating all the food. If you dont tell her to f*** off ( but in a polite way) she will keep mooching off of you for a long time.
how could i say ...please leave...=/...shes like one of the closest friends i have..not the best one though..
she talks to my housemate....i cant lie..:( ill b the bitch of the year if i say " im not there for u when u need me"..=/ i hate stupid girly emotions...theyre just a pain to handle..i tell her to get over it..but she just cries and cries...i cant send her out the door crying...=/...right now im jsut playing simpsons on my media plaer 24/7 for her on my laptop..hoping she ll get the msg i cant entertain her...

[Typhoid]

Well then how do you expect to get rid of her if your not willing to do anything about it? you both know she has to leave sometime, and im pretty sure she knows what shes doing.

If your too scared or whatever to say anything, your just giving her a free ride to stay. Maybe she knows you wont tell her to leave if she cries at the exact time she asks to stay another night. Think about it, you would be alot less emotional about it if she asked you while your eating or watching TV, but if shes crying you'll feel sorry for her.


And dont say " Im not here for you when you need me" thats stupid.

Just say something like " I dont think its best for you to stay here right now, because i like my privacy, and i im busy alot and need some time to myself"

Something like that.

[Yugi Starwind]

if you really feel like she's an inconvenince, tell her, but don't go and say something like.."you can't stay here anymore. get the F*** out." you gotta tell her what's on your mind about her and this fix you're in with her.

[Hero2]

right now im jsut playing simpsons on my media player 24/7 for her on my laptop

Well thats the problem who could leave a place were there showing the simpsons 24/7. :p

if you tell her to get on with her life and give her a freindly shove out the door and say "hey Im srry that this sh*t happend to you but cring wont fix it, lift your head up high and dry your eyes get on with life and live it to its fullest". and if that doesnt work just say "ohh well I tried now get the hell out" j/k :p

[Jason1]

Bad stuff always happens when people start to post threads about personal issues...always...

[Ginkasa]

*considers the new blogs which are, for all intents and purposes, all about members personal lives and issues*

O_o


*shrugs and walks away*

[Seth]

I started reading the first post and I wasn't paying attention so I thought it was happydude. Then I was like, wtf happened to him? But yes, I found out the truth.


Anyway, I must be a lot more brash than the rest of you. I'd tell her exactly what's happening and that she needs to either pay for the stuff or leave. The definition of close friend doesn't entitle you to allow all your money to be sucked up. You're in uni and I'm assuming you aren't exactly loaded with the cash. I'd also let her know that what she is doing isn't exactly something that one does to another friend.

[GiMpY-wAnNaBe]

i'd allow her to stay, if she chipped in with some cash.... because i'd take a friend in if he needed a place to stay *cough* happydude*cough*, but after a week its a bit too long *COUGH*happydude*COUGH*

[Vampyr]

*considers the new blogs which are, for all intents and purposes, all about members personal lives and issues*

O_o


*shrugs and walks away*

Well if what Jason says is true, all you guys with blogs are screwed big time. :p

And as repetitive as it may sound, I have to agree with everyone else here. But think of it this way: if YOU dont like her being there, chances are your roomate doesnt like it either. For one thing, your friend is eating your housemantes food. So what I think you should do first is talk to your room mate. If both of you decide it's best for her to go, then it's always nice to have backup in a conversation like that.

But, like gimpy said, you may be interested in taking her in if she will pay 1/3 of the rent or whatever. So your roommate and yourself could consider that.

Or you could just get angry and yell at her and try to get some sense into her head. Sometimes that's the best thing for some people.

[Su-Yin]

i told her...in the face..i dont want her here...she started getting teary eyed..now im f***ing typing this here...refusing to look at her cry...
okay now im the mean bitch..sigh* not helping..shes not taking her stuff...shes still in my clothes..

[Happydude]

i've tried talking her into talking to her friend, ut she didnt wanna be mean, i even offered to talk to her myself...but she didnt want me to...i just told her everything that needed to be said...hopefully she'll get the picture...

[Jonbo298]

Ask her how she would feel if you were doing this to her? Have her know that she has to either make some boundaries (eating all the food, mooching other things, etc...) or she might have to leave.

[Happydude]

she's gone...i gave a nice really short speech...

[Hero2]

I hope it dident involve a certain finger. :sneaky:

[Typhoid]

I hope it dident involve a certain finger. :sneaky:



Or a certain giant wood thing being slammed real fast.

Or a certain foot in a certain ass.

[Happydude]

nope...didn't involve any of those.....but only because i did it over MSN...

[Typhoid]

Thats cold.....thats worse than over the phone, or a letter. And why did you do it again?

[Happydude]

Thats cold.....thats worse than over the phone, or a letter. And why did you do it again?
because she was pissing me off...

[BreakABone]

You should of made it continue for a bit.

Nothing better than girl's bickering...

Like one dat some chick stayed up till like 3 in the morning in front of my door talking about her problems..

Fun times...

[Su-Yin]

now she thinks my boyfriends an ass...but oh well...its all good..i did tell her but i dont think she got the msg...she wouldnt have left if he didnt say anything...she tried the whole *im so pityful...please dont leave me* s**t on me...didnt work though...*shrug*...

[Dyne]

You can't be such a pushover. You should start acting like you're in control. It's the only way. She's not going to leave if you're still accomodating.