Monogamy

[Dyne]

Jeez, this place has been dead here, so I might as well spice it up.

What's your view on focusing only on one member of the opposite sex rather than many?

Personally I think multiple is the only way to go if you're younger. It helps build your confidence tremendously if you're only going for the dating. Serious relationships shouldn't occur while you're young, which is what I think a lot of people make the mistake of doing.

Your view? Come on; might as well make some use out of this forum.

[Joeiss]

Well monogamy is when you marry multiple people, isn't it? When your young, you might as well get as much action as you can, haha.. Unless you don't want to, then that's cool. But when I'm older, I just want to settle down with a special lady, and spend the rest of my life with only her.

[Typhoid]

Ya, im pretty sure monogomy is only if your married. But i agree Joeiss. Its good when your young, but then you will eventually get to that point where you only want to be with one person. Some people go through that earlier too though. i think, personally, its a double edged sword. When your younger, and dont date around, because you only want to be with one person, you get ripped on by your friends. But then when your older and you were only with one person, you'll be really devastated if you break up.

But on the other hand, if you date around alot while your younger. When you get older and find it time to find your special lady, you might not know how to keep a serious relationship going....IMO anyways

[Dyne]

Well, it can be "relations" or marriage. It's not exclusive to marriage or anything. I used it from the perspective of animal terms.

The actual word Monogamy, believe it or not, is only marrying ONE person, no multiple, Joeiss. It says "Mono," in the name. :p

[Happydude]

well...i used to want to be with all the sexy ladies....but now i have one and i don't need/want anymore :)

[The Germanator]

My personal outlook on this so far in life is to look for serious monogamous relationships. I'm beginning to question whether this is the right way to go at this point, being in college and all. I've heard many conversations around college where people have been talking about their casual make-out sessions with whoever, and then they may not talk to that person for a few days. This has always sat wrong with me...I haven't yet been able to just make-out with a girl I barely know, because I need to feel something, and if it's just going to be a one time thing, that's hard for me to handle. Perhaps I should just drink more alcohol, then I wouldn't care, but that's not really my style either...I sometimes just never know whether a girl wants more than to just make-out, or whether she may take that as a step towards a serious relationship that I never wanted to begin with. It's a dangerous game that I've been too afraid to play.

[Canyarion]

I've had some (bad) relations, but I intend to have sex with only one woman. After we've married.
But you have to find that woman, so naturally you have to date people....

[DimHalo]

Well , in terms of sex and marriage ... monogamy is the only way to go. I will marry one guy and he will be the first and only person I sleep with for the rest of my life (hopefully).

Dating is a different story. When I was in high school I was fully in support of dating around and finding out what I like. Then I got to college and for the first year or so I still felt that way. But then I found someone that I cared about so much that I no longer had a desire to date around anymore. May or may not turn out to be the beginning of the end for me.

[ZebraRampage]

My personal outlook on this so far in life is to look for serious monogamous relationships. I'm beginning to question whether this is the right way to go at this point, being in college and all. I've heard many conversations around college where people have been talking about their casual make-out sessions with whoever, and then they may not talk to that person for a few days. This has always sat wrong with me...I haven't yet been able to just make-out with a girl I barely know, because I need to feel something, and if it's just going to be a one time thing, that's hard for me to handle. Perhaps I should just drink more alcohol, then I wouldn't care, but that's not really my style either...I sometimes just never know whether a girl wants more than to just make-out, or whether she may take that as a step towards a serious relationship that I never wanted to begin with. It's a dangerous game that I've been too afraid to play.

It's scary how my feelings toward this is exactly the same as you. I can't stand making out with someone that I don't know because it feels wrong. It goes against my morals as well. I know that I'm only 17, but I don't really want to date a lot of people throughout my life. I just want one person really..though I realize it will take a few to possibly find the right one. Too bad it's so hard to tell what one thing means, such as making out with someone, as you've explained. It is these things that makes dating and relationships such a delicate situation.

[Jason1]

But when I'm older, I just want to settle down with a special lady,


Cant say that I go for the special girls, but whatever floats your boat man.

[mickydaniels]

My personal outlook on this so far in life is to look for serious monogamous relationships. I'm beginning to question whether this is the right way to go at this point, being in college and all. I've heard many conversations around college where people have been talking about their casual make-out sessions with whoever, and then they may not talk to that person for a few days. This has always sat wrong with me...I haven't yet been able to just make-out with a girl I barely know, because I need to feel something, and if it's just going to be a one time thing, that's hard for me to handle. Perhaps I should just drink more alcohol, then I wouldn't care, but that's not really my style either...I sometimes just never know whether a girl wants more than to just make-out, or whether she may take that as a step towards a serious relationship that I never wanted to begin with. It's a dangerous game that I've been too afraid to play.

Yes, you have totally hijacked my thought processes and made them your own. :eek:

[GT News]

My personal outlook on this so far in life is to look for serious monogamous relationships. I'm beginning to question whether this is the right way to go at this point, being in college and all. I've heard many conversations around college where people have been talking about their casual make-out sessions with whoever, and then they may not talk to that person for a few days. This has always sat wrong with me...I haven't yet been able to just make-out with a girl I barely know, because I need to feel something, and if it's just going to be a one time thing, that's hard for me to handle. Perhaps I should just drink more alcohol, then I wouldn't care, but that's not really my style either...I sometimes just never know whether a girl wants more than to just make-out, or whether she may take that as a step towards a serious relationship that I never wanted to begin with. It's a dangerous game that I've been too afraid to play.

Yes, you have totally hijacked my thought processes and made them your own. :eek:

I see. What makes you think I have totally hijacked my thought processes and made them your own?A deeper algorithm is needed to respond to that correctly.

[MuGen]

yeah Monogamy is one person and Polygamy is many...

I prefer Polygamy, I'm only 18..

[Su-Yin]

My personal outlook on this so far in life is to look for serious monogamous relationships. I'm beginning to question whether this is the right way to go at this point, being in college and all. I've heard many conversations around college where people have been talking about their casual make-out sessions with whoever, and then they may not talk to that person for a few days. This has always sat wrong with me...I haven't yet been able to just make-out with a girl I barely know, because I need to feel something, and if it's just going to be a one time thing, that's hard for me to handle. Perhaps I should just drink more alcohol, then I wouldn't care, but that's not really my style either...I sometimes just never know whether a girl wants more than to just make-out, or whether she may take that as a step towards a serious relationship that I never wanted to begin with. It's a dangerous game that I've been too afraid to play.

this world needs more guys who think this way...lol..

[manasecret]

I hope I don't come off as an asshole (BIG warning sign).

But you're worried about making out? You must have some high moral standards, or maybe making out means something different to you.

I could see wanting to have sex only with girls you truly know and like/love, but making out isn't much of anything.

[mickydaniels]

I hope I don't come off as an asshole (BIG warning sign).

But you're worried about making out? You must have some high moral standards, or maybe making out means something different to you.

I could see wanting to have sex only with girls you truly know and like/love, but making out isn't much of anything.


It isn't much of anything? Are you serious?

If you were to walk down the street and saw a couple kissing, what would your very first thought be? Likely, that they have feelings for each other and enjoy being in one another's company. You can't bring yourself to do intimate things with people you don't care for or hate. Which leads to people carrying feelings along. Which lead to repeated sessions. Which lead to relationships doomed to fail or seeing people as objects or 'tools of amorous satisfaction' instead of an actual human being.

[Happydude]

It isn't much of anything? Are you serious?

If you were to walk down the street and saw a couple kissing, what would your very first thought be? Likely, that they have feelings for each other and enjoy being in one another's company. You can't bring yourself to do intimate things with people you don't care for or hate. Which leads to people carrying feelings along. Which lead to repeated sessions. Which lead to relationships doomed to fail or seeing people as objects or 'tools of amorous satisfaction' instead of an actual human being.
couldn't have said it better myself...

[Crono]

It isn't much of anything? Are you serious?

If you were to walk down the street and saw a couple kissing, what would your very first thought be? Likely, that they have feelings for each other and enjoy being in one another's company. You can't bring yourself to do intimate things with people you don't care for or hate. Which leads to people carrying feelings along. Which lead to repeated sessions. Which lead to relationships doomed to fail or seeing people as objects or 'tools of amorous satisfaction' instead of an actual human being.

Whenever I see people "making out" on the street (especially younger people), they're doing it to show off. Because these days it's "cool" to have a girlfriend, it's "cool" to make out, everything is now is about looking good in front of other people. Don't tell me that a guy with a HOT chick is kissing her in the street just because "he loves her", it's because he wants to show off to the other guys who might happen to be there.

These days love is just a game. A game that half of the people these days seem to lose while playing it.

[DimHalo]

I'm sorry but you have a very bleak outlook. It is crappy to know that people feel that way (and unfortunately there are a lot of people that do)... I completely disagree with the thought. But I don't push my beliefs on others as long as my friends are not getting hurt.

[Crono]

I'm sorry but you have a very bleak outlook. It is crappy to know that people feel that way (and unfortunately there are a lot of people that do)... I completely disagree with the thought. But I don't push my beliefs on others as long as my friends are not getting hurt.

I was only saying what is true and what I've seen for myself. I don't like to think that people think that way, and I myself will never think that way either. But.. it's just the world we live in.

[Typhoid]

Yeah, i dont really think making out with a girl is a big deal. As long as you know her. Ive made out with a few girls at party's that i havn't known for long. But i might have been brought up to think less of it than other people.