Towards a career? or backstabbed?

[Jewels]

i have an arguement that is unsolved i believe that it needs some opinion, me and my friend nick started dating, then we started working together, and this is the update... please anyone opinions would help me ever much so...


at work nick was in the electronic department ful time and almost every day he complained that he wanted to go home early because he was bored, half the time he was given a duty over their, and he would either do it half-asked or he would not do it at all, along with his attitude he is one of them, dont give me **** or ill give you **** back... he even talked back to his boss, (the team leader in charge of that department and hardlines) so, today was the day, they let him go, they told him due to payroll cut and because of his attitude and his performance, believe me there wasnt a day that went by where he didnt complain about his job, so.... they fired him and some positions become available over their, thinking of how i couldnt work with nick in the first place, now is a time for me to apply for a position, since the front end is ever so boring, and this is an oppurtunity to get away from it, so i applied, i told nick, he said he wouldnt be mad at me, i then talked to him about 30 minutes later he was down right pissed, he broke up with me over a stupid job....~! a job to which he got his ownself fired from! electronics having something to do with my career, i applied, thinking he would be happy for me, because its what i want to do in life, work with computers, he is ever so pissed and ended things over a ridiculous job that can easily come and go.... so i told him that its retarted that he wanted to break up with me just over a stupid job. im sorry i care about this kid too much to have things end over a stupid job, he said i backstabbed him, and we argued a bit more, he calmed down sorta and just said ill call ya tomorrow, as far as im certain i am single and will not be going back with him, what do you think did i make a right move? or backstab an asshole who got himself fired?

[Hero2]

you say ever so much alot.....but anyway Id say f*** him anyone willing to be an asshole (in work or to there GF) gets what they deserve.

[jeepnut]

Sounds like a person who needs help.

[Typhoid]

I think hes crazy.....
.......Ya me too.....
......Maybe he has a split personality......
.....I agree with those guys...

[Happydude]

if he breaks up with you over something you preferably should have (experience) for the future instead of being happy for you...then like all 6 guys above said...he can go f*ck himself.

[ominub]

I Agree with the above posters, its stupid what he did, oh well guess its his loss isnt it.

[Kitana85]

I can't believe he acted so irresponsibly on the job. It is hiw own fault that he was fired. You later took the inititative and got yourself a better job. I don't see what he should be pissed at you for.

[Dark Samurai]

I've had this situation before, (except I was the one that got the new job). It was at a BestBuy, my ex was cashier there for a year, when she told me that there was openings, I went for it. I got the job, and astonishingly I had the better paycheck, the was thoroughly(sp?) pissed off. We broke up because of this big arguement that men get the better paycheck, and stuff like that. Oh, and I was cashier too.

So I say that you should just move on, its better that you have a good career, than a bastard-ass boyfriend.

[DimHalo]

i would say that you should move on. you did fine trying to get a new job, it was not your fault he was fired. and if he really cared about you he would be happy for you, so since he doesn't then he's not worth being with

[Jewels]

thanx guys, he supposed to talk to me sometime todaY but i dont think im gonna talk with him, he should be ****ing happy that i finally got a job that deals with my career, that and i work at sams club, and in the front end, the only thing a cashier does is get to stand around all day checking therefore it sucked for me, and he was in the same position, so he got out into the electronics ****ed his job up and they fired him, now i applied for it, APPLIED! that doesnt neccessarily mean that ill get it! and he cant see that, love this kid i do but its bull**** to play war on the behalf that i did nothing wrong, he told his mom that he was LAYED OFF... layed off!!! now shes mad at me that i moved in on his position, she doesnt even know the whole half of the story!!!!! aaaaaaaahhhhhhhh ill let yall know what happends today. but a high ass chance i wont go back, i dont need to take this crap, especially when im getting out of this town in the fall to attend U.S.D. for computer science, yes i am excited, i was accepted to the University Of South Dakota..... and how do you think he took that.... little pissed and sad... I JUST CANT WIN!!! but this argument i will!

[Jonbo298]

Keep acting tough to his mom until she listens to you. I'd keep repeating "LISTEN TO MY SIDE OF THE STORY" until she complied.

Worst comes to worst, just leave her house and never worry about her again.

[Jason1]

This guy sounds like an Idiot.

[Dylflon]

He's acting irrationaly because he feels that he's a failure. I have seen this several times before. Now, instinctively men feel they have to be the provider. We can't help that. That's just the way we are. If he loses his job and you take his position that probably makes him feel like less of a man so to speak. He's most likely feeling crummy that he lost his job and it hurts him to see you come in and take his job. It's a big blow to his pride.
I think that may be tricky for any of us to deal with. (Someone we cared about taking our job. Think about it.)

Now, I'm not saying he wasn't acting irrationally. In fact, he was being kind of a jerk. But I also feel that he can't help the way he's feeling. So, if you care about him and he'll be enough of a man to talk it through with you and accept that you may get his job, then give him another shot.

[DimHalo]

not talking to him would make him think you don't care about him. if he wants to talk about it rationally then you should give him that chance. otherwise you'll just be showing him the same respect he showed you, be the bigger person

[Vampyr]

I most deffinatly agree with Dylflon (wise words my friend) and JS. I'm not going to take up for him, because there was nothing good about what he did, it was pretty dumb of him.

But if you read what Dylflon said, you'll get an idea of why he did it. There is no such thing as a perfect human, and everyone is a jerk sometimes, and everyone does things to hurt other peoples feelings sometime. If this guy is willing to talk to you about it, then I say you deffinatly give him another chance. He is probably regretting every word he said right now. I know the feeling. I've done or said something stupid to someone I cared about a lot...and afterwords I realized how stupid it was and I relived the moment over and over, each time I did things right or I said something to make it all better...the sad thing is that none of them counted, of course, becuase it's reality that matters.

But I think you should give him another chance if he is willing to talk about it.

[thatmariolover]

He sounds like he's an angry guy. He could probably still use somebody to talk to. I was like that when I was younger (crazy hormones you know).

Anyway, it's not your responsibility to be there for him when he screws up and acts like a jerk. But just keep it in mind. I'm guessing he knows he screwed up and feels dumb about it. But he'll never admit that if it is true, and maybe it isn't. At any rate, it wasn't your fault. He's probably got some warped sense of pride and thought it was your duty to stand up for him and by taking the job he feels betrayed.

At any rate, you didn't do anything wrong. Do what you gotta do.

[Jewels]

well, i talked to the kid, or at least tried, i was the bigger person and called him yesterday afternoon, he was very pissed still and kept hanging up on me, so finally i stated AT LEAST LET ME TALK TO YOU, GIVE ME THAT AT LEAST! it usually works on pretty much anyone--- so i talked to him for a bit, told him that i went in yestersay morning and told his boss that i wasnt interested in the job, that made him feel a little better (but!) according to him he doesnt think i took it.... but reality shows that i didnt decline from it and pretty much everyone knows but him and his family, i know its wrong but damnit! he has no right to be mad for that, anywho.. back to the discussion, i talked to him for awhile, then i got him to talk occassionally, (for some reason when people are pissed or sad, i can for some reason usually get em to vent) that pretty much sums up the argument/conversation he said he didnt mean to say the things he said wednesday and also stated that you may have pissed me off, but i love you too much to just get rid of you, especially over a stupid job, so things are great, when we started talking he was majorly pissed and by the end he at least showed some signs of happiness, he was smiling..

[DimHalo]

sounds like you're a great person

[manasecret]

The only thing you did wrong was go out with a bad-attitude guy like that in the first place.

You deserve better than a jackass who's probably just mad at his own life; he'll only bring you down, too. Move on and don't look back.

I'm being a blunt asshole, but these things are much simpler than you're making it.

[DimHalo]

The only thing you did wrong was go out with a bad-attitude guy like that in the first place.

You deserve better than a jackass who's probably just mad at his own life; he'll only bring you down, too. Move on and don't look back.

I'm being a blunt asshole, but these things are much simpler than you're making it.
actually, i think it is a little more complicated than you're making it... of course, how are we all supposed to know, i think she should make that decision for herself

and it seems like you're being a little rough on the guy

[manasecret]

No, it really is simple.

Julie, you're 19. This guy, who is obviously mad for no good reason, doesn't deserve you. Move on. I guarantee you have plenty of time to find a better guy who actually has a life. Especially if you're going to USD, you'll easily find a better guy.

[Vampyr]

I guess manasecret is one of those guys that never does anything wrong and always has this perfect clean cut explanation for why he is angry.

Seriously...we all act irrational at times...it's part of our being.

You like someone for the good things about them, but you love them for their defects.