Hypothetical Question:

[KillerGremlin]

Wedding Invitations via Facebook:

Acceptable or Not Acceptable.

I ask because members of my current generation are starting to get engaged and stuff, and I'm sure it is going to happen where we start seeing invitations on Facebook.

[Bond]

Not acceptable. A wedding invitation over Facebook shows no class and is lame.

[Nighthawk]

It's just stupid

[Swan]

Completely agree.


And the bride tends to like the invitation and keep one as a memento

[Typhoid]

It's a wedding, not a fucking BBQ.

I'm noticing that in the times of so many mediums of conversation, people are still sticking to "normal" ways of doing traditional things. For the most part people still break up and get engaged face-to-face, so hopefully most of them will realize wedding invitations have to be sent non-electronically.




Totally unrelated: Why the hell is it that the "older" generations (IE: All of our parents) type like 12 year old asian girls when they finally take up the internet?
I just saw a comment my mom made to my sister on Facebook and suddenly hate life.

[KillerGremlin]

The thing that's crazy is people DO breakup over Facebook...and people do get upset over relationship statuses on Facebook. Facebook has become this social measurement for people, people really take things seriously.

I think it's kind of weird even when I see wedding photos on Facebook...it's like you're crossing something incredibly intimate with something kind of dumb and disposable (as we found out in Bond's Facebook-getting-hacked-thread).

I'm gonna open up my own Facebook counseling center for couples with domestic Facebook disputes. :lolz:

Totally unrelated: Why the hell is it that the "older" generations (IE: All of our parents) type like 12 year old asian girls when they finally take up the internet?
I just saw a comment my mom made to my sister on Facebook and suddenly hate life.


I agree btw...older people have a hard time conversing via the Interwebz.

[manasecret]

I agree with everyone here. I think you should treat your wedding with a little more respect than your drunken birthday party.

Of course, maybe using facebook as a pre-pre-invite, so that it's not a replacement of the physical invitations would be acceptable for me. Though I think that's skirting the heart of the question.

But on the other side, we just received this (IMHO) ridiculous wedding invitation that has this bow at the top of the card so the envelope is like half an inch thick at one part and looks ridiculous. I think some people go too far with their weddings.

[Bond]

Totally unrelated: Why the hell is it that the "older" generations (IE: All of our parents) type like 12 year old asian girls when they finally take up the internet?
I just saw a comment my mom made to my sister on Facebook and suddenly hate life.
I've noticed this as well.

Honestly, once internet websites / applications reach critical mass, it is time to abandon ship.

[BreakABone]

To the original question, I think it would be tasteless and in many ways disrespectful to your guest as it makes it seem thrown together. I mean you use Facebook for like social events like parties or a beach or a BBQ. A wedding is pretty friggin big deal.

Hell I have friends who are planning their wedding for next year and the year after, if they pulled that crap probably would feel cheated.

To Typhoid's question, I don't think its just a parental thing, I think most people are introduced to the net in that lingo, I'm not ashamed to say when I first used the net I use to speak like that (Except the Z at the end of a word I hate that SO SO SO much)

As for Facebook, we had a saying in school, "If it ain't on Facebook, its not official." It was a joke at the time because it was relatively new and WAY before they started the feed and crap, but now it seems like big news. Some of my friends update their life on the damn thing... a trend I am starting to hate is when folks are like Goodnight/Good morning facebook.... like anyone cares.

[Vampyr]

It's acceptable if you do it a couple of weeks before the wedding and you've already sent real invitations to everyone, then you can have a facebook event just for the heck of having one.

[DeathsHand]

Wedding invitations, no.
Divorce announcement via status update after screaming at and beating your wife, yes.

People *our average age* shouldn't even be getting married...
And that rings truest with my particular age, and stays true until I say so, growing old as I grow old.
It creeps me out.
That and having kids.
I'd just as soon throw them down a well.
As part of a ceremony.
With invitations sent out via facebook.

Edit: For the record, that didn't come out nearly as harsh as I meant for it to.

[Typhoid]

People *our average age* shouldn't even be getting married...


Everyone in my family, parents/uncles included got married around 22.
That blows my mind. I'm 22. I still make fart jokes.

[Combine 017]

Everyone in my family, parents/uncles included got married around 22.
That blows my mind. I'm 22. I still make fart jokes.

And thats the way to be! Well, maybe.

Wedding invitations via Facebook = NO!
That is so incredibly inferior. Its like getting slapped in the face with a hard cover book. Unpleasant and unnecessary. A formal invitation is what is needed, not some stupid facebook inv.

Also, my lower eyelid wont stop twitching...

[thatmariolover]

Certainly you could have an event on Facebook, but it's completely classless if it replaces actual invitations instead of supplementing them.

[Dylflon]

Saves you so much moeny on stupid invitations.


Acceptable.

[DeathsHand]

Saves you so much moeny on stupid invitations.

And the risk of accidentally poisoning your fiancée.

[Typhoid]

Saves you so much moeny on stupid invitations.


Acceptable.



Why even have a ceremony at all, when you can get e-married by an e-priest. (No, really.)
Think about the money you'd save, it's only your wedding, afterall.

[Dylflon]

Why even have a ceremony at all, when you can get e-married by an e-priest. (No, really.)
Think about the money you'd save, it's only your wedding, afterall.


To revise my thoughts: send proper invitations to family members, etc.

Facebook or telephone invite your other guests and provide info through e-mail or Facebook.


Comparing invitations to the ceremony isn't really apt.

I find that too much importance is placed on the invitation cards.


Oh, and to get a woman's opinion: my girlfriend and I had this discussion a couple weeks ago and she holds the stance that Facebook inviting to a wedding would be practical. And this is a woman who is obsessed with weddings and will end up costing me and her family ridiculous amounts of money when wedding time comes around.

[Typhoid]

Comparing invitations to the ceremony isn't really apt.

I was moreso doing it in a "saving money" aspect.



The reason I don't see a big deal with sending out an invitation to every person at my wedding, is because I don't plan on inviting every single person I've spoken less than 10 words to in the past 3 years to. It depends on the size of the party you wish to invite. I only want close friends and family, so it wouldn't be a big deal to send out cards, personally.

[BreakABone]

I was moreso doing it in a "saving money" aspect.



The reason I don't see a big deal with sending out an invitation to every person at my wedding, is because I don't plan on inviting every single person I've spoken less than 10 words to in the past 3 years to. It depends on the size of the party you wish to invite. I only want close friends and family, so it wouldn't be a big deal to send out cards, personally.

Its not so much the ceremony for the most part that is usually pretty small.
It's the reception which tends to have a larger turnout.

And to Dylflon, the problem with sending invites to close friends and family and then e-vites to others is it kind of shows some of your guests as lesser or filler, I mean there's the odd chance they won't show or know but still.

Take for example, two of my close friends are getting married next year. I've known the date for one of the weddings since the end of last year, and I still speak with them, but they still will send invitations just because its the proper course of business.

And... well I don't see a point in going cheap with a wedding, you only get one (god willing)

[Typhoid]

I just realized why I don't like the wedding invite via facebook.

When people send me facebook invites to things, I - along with many if not most of other people, don't really read what it is for - and just click "attending, maybe, not" to it. That is, if they check their event list at all. It seems trivial to me to put it on the same page as "Hey, so I sent you the invite a few weeks ago, but you're coming to my wedding, right?"

"Wedding" and "BBQ" should never be inter-:p changable words.

Not to mention e-vites aren't physical things. So you have to factor, how much time do you give to an e-vite for a wedding? Too long, and they might forget about it entirely, too short and it will seem like bad planning. The beauty of the actual invite, is people can put it on a counter/mantle etc. until the date arrives.

[Bube]

I just realized why I don't like the wedding invite via facebook.

When people send me facebook invites to things, I - along with many if not most of other people, don't really read what it is for - and just click "attending, maybe, not" to it. That is, if they check their event list at all. It seems trivial to me to put it on the same page as "Hey, so I sent you the invite a few weeks ago, but you're coming to my wedding, right?"

"Wedding" and "BBQ" should never be inter-:p changable words.

Not to mention e-vites aren't physical things. So you have to factor, how much time do you give to an e-vite for a wedding? Too long, and they might forget about it entirely, too short and it will seem like bad planning. The beauty of the actual invite, is people can put it on a counter/mantle etc. until the date arrives.
Hmm..if you click "attending, maybe, not", then that's pretty good. When I get an invite from someone I click "ignore invite" and "block invites from this person". So if somebody invited me to some stupid event in the past, and they try to invite me to their wedding, I'm not attending.

Facebook wedding invites: Like webcam-chatting with your doctor and swallowing your webcam so your he can check your throat.

[KillerGremlin]

"Wedding" and "BBQ" should never be inter-:p changable words.

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