would you?

[Andromida_]

Ok a BIG question for everyone...
If someone called you names, harassed you, spread rumors about you around school, and bugged you to no end even though you told them you wanted nothing to do with them... would you accept their apology and forgive them?

[Joeiss]

Nope. I would call them names for about 5 years, then ask for an apology and see if they liked it.

:D

[Revival]

Rumors eh? I don't remember any rumors about you around our school.. oh wait.. nevermind.. I get it now..

Well, if I was in that position, I would think about how much that person means to me (if they were my best friend or a good friend, or just someone you say once every week). After that, I would take into concideration if they really mean it or not. If the apology is heartfelt and sincere, then I might give them another chance.

I can see the tough position you are in here Kristen.. I would be confused about what to do too :unsure:

[Andromida_]

Maybe that apology didn't mean as much because it wasn't said to my face... I guess that could have somthing to do with it. Other than that I'm still really mad at this person. This person also seems to have gotten too many chances, and I don't know if I should give them another.

[Revival]

Well, yeah -- I guess. Everything means more to the face.. well, if I were the person you were mad at.. I wouldn't want to say it to your face.. I'd be afraid of being beaten ;)

[Ric]

In my experience the apology would only come after I had beaten the crap out of them, or a friend or older cibling intervined. I would accept that apology but if ever they started again, well then I would teach them a lesson. But I havent had to do that for a while now, I am in the 6th form and we treat eachother with a littlemore respect and act more maturely and responsibly.

If they apoligise and truly mean it they should be forgiven. After that if they do it again you should familiarise them with the Marquis Of Queensbury Rules.

[Joeiss]

let's not spill personal problems onto the boards please!

[Gamer]

umm, nope! i'de beat the living **** out of them , them let them forgive me:D

[Revival]

Originally posted by Joeiss
let's not spill personal problems onto the boards please!
What personal problem? This was asked as a general questions.. no specifics.

[TheGrimReaper]

Ummm yes yes yes I see.

Darn this is hard! It would take a while, and many bashings of the culprit to accept their apology. Then I would never talk to them again.

[marionette]

i've had experience with this..and that person knows who i'm talking about. but, it depends on how much they mean to you, like other people said. but, it would have been nicer if he/she said sorry to your face..

[Jin]

I'd forgive the person if I were you Andromida. Think of it this way, if you forgive her she might stop spreading rumors and harassing, but if you don't she might be resentful and continue to do it. IMO, nothing good can come out of you not forgiving her.

[Ginkasa]

Eh, I'd just ignore them. Whether they were spreading more rumors or apologizing I'd just ignore them.



:unsure:

[Angrist]

That kinda happened to me. And now we're cool, I forgave them... although I don't really like them for what they're like.

So YES.

[fingersman]

There's an old saying...
If it person hurts you once it's their fault
If a person hurts you twice it's your fault.


What I'm trying to say is this.....if the person was your friend they wouldn't spread rumors and if the person was really sorry for they did you wouldn't get he says she says apology.

But it's totally up to you if you want to forgive ( if indeed he/she did ask for an apology), me I would forgive them but I would be careful what I say or do around them.

[Andromida_]

Originally posted by Jin
I'd forgive the person if I were you Andromida. Think of it this way, if you forgive her she might stop spreading rumors and harassing, but if you don't she might be resentful and continue to do it. IMO, nothing good can come out of you not forgiving her.
hehe... who ever said it was a her? I just said "someone" :p

But anyway thanks a bunch guys... and I totally agree with marionette, this person means a lot to me and the only way I would forgive them if they had said the apology to my face. *shrugs* but I'm not on speaking terms with this person right now so I guess it won't happen...

[GameMaster]

I think you'll feel better having forgave them. If their asking for forgiveness, their probably already feeling kinda low...

Deeper down, I bet it's a plea for forgiveness. You'll both feel better, what have you got to lose? Only old hate.

[Jin]

Lol, right now the poll is tied at 8 a piece. That poll must not be helping Andromida to make a decision at all.:D

[GameMaster]

*votes yes*

*brushes hands*

Well, looks like my work here is done.

[Andromida_]

Originally posted by Jin
Lol, right now the poll is tied at 8 a piece. That poll must not be helping Andromida to make a decision at all.:D
I was thinking the same thing... I was actually telling all my friends this morning about this post and how it was tied... I guess I have my decision though with reading everyone's responses and not just with the poll.
Thanks a bunch to everyone that responded :)

[PureEvil]

Originally posted by Andromida_
I was actually telling all my friends this morning about this post and how it was tied...

You tell all your friends about the poll results in your posts at GameTavern?

*cough*

:unsure:

[Andromida_]

:p Should I even start to explain this one?
*thinks* nah....

[Cyrax9]

Originally posted by Andromida_
:p Should I even start to explain this one?
*thinks* nah....

I talk about GT alot, and most of the people I know, Online and off, all know that I'm the Computers Forum Mod.

As for this question, I've been through it a few times with differnt people, I'll Put it this way, on Survivor 3 "Big Tom" said "I forgive, but I don't forget", in other words, yes I'd forgive them, but I wouldn't forget what they did, and if they did it again it would probably result in that person having a Broken nose.

Let me tell ya, I know what you're goiing through, and if this person was a friend, they're probably feeling about as low as the 9th level as hell, so I'd forgive them and try to become friends again. On the pother hand if this person has been a problem from day 1, likew another person I used to know, In theend they'd probably get a good "boxing match" to set them straight.